Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
from Parlay International
Many of us care deeply about someone who is troubled by chemical dependency or other problems. Whether that person is a spouse, child, parent or friend, our lives are changed by their problems. We may not have realized it, but our behavior has probably changed, too. Some of us became codependent - we compulsively react to another person's behavior, and we try to control it in some way or another.
Codependent habits often go unrecognized and can cause great damage. These habits may often go unrecognized and can cause great damage. These habits may actually help the troubled avoid facing their addictions or problems. They can also prevent the codependent person from living a fulfilling life, sometimes for years after the original relationship is gone. If you believe you may have codependent habits, learning about codependency is the first step toward making a happier life for yourself.
The Codependent Profile
The self-destructive patters of feeling, thinking and behaving that characterize codependency are often described by therapists as roles:
*Caretakers are helpers. They constantly put others' wants and needs ahead of their own.
*Approval-seekers measure their self-worth by the approval of others. They have low self-esteem.
*Controllers use manipulation, advice-giving or even helplessness to control events and people who are out of control.
*Deniers repress their thoughts and feelings. They ignore problems as much as possible.
*Poor communicators and boundary setters are afraid to state their opinions and needs. They do not set personal limits. Instead, they tolerate hurtful behaviors from other people.
It's true that nearly everyone exhibits these characteristics to some degree, but they are major personality traits in codependents. A codependent may play one or more of these roles and is unable to change.
*For codependents, the process of recovery is to learn how to take care of themselves and to stop controlling the behavior of others.*
Recovering From Codependency
It is possible to be kind and considerate without being consumed by other people's problems. For codependents, the process of recovery is to learn how to take care of themselves and to stop controlling the behavior of others. In other words, recovering codependents learn to become detached.
Detachment doesn't mean indifference or avoiding responsibility. It simply means finding the balance between giving to others and giving to oneself.
Loving a troubled person can be terribly painful and can have long-lasting effects. Recovering from codependency means acknowledging and letting go of self-destructive habits and fiding ways to build a happy life.
Many of us care deeply about someone who is troubled by chemical dependency or other problems. Whether that person is a spouse, child, parent or friend, our lives are changed by their problems. We may not have realized it, but our behavior has probably changed, too. Some of us became codependent - we compulsively react to another person's behavior, and we try to control it in some way or another.
Codependent habits often go unrecognized and can cause great damage. These habits may often go unrecognized and can cause great damage. These habits may actually help the troubled avoid facing their addictions or problems. They can also prevent the codependent person from living a fulfilling life, sometimes for years after the original relationship is gone. If you believe you may have codependent habits, learning about codependency is the first step toward making a happier life for yourself.
The Codependent Profile
The self-destructive patters of feeling, thinking and behaving that characterize codependency are often described by therapists as roles:
*Caretakers are helpers. They constantly put others' wants and needs ahead of their own.
*Approval-seekers measure their self-worth by the approval of others. They have low self-esteem.
*Controllers use manipulation, advice-giving or even helplessness to control events and people who are out of control.
*Deniers repress their thoughts and feelings. They ignore problems as much as possible.
*Poor communicators and boundary setters are afraid to state their opinions and needs. They do not set personal limits. Instead, they tolerate hurtful behaviors from other people.
It's true that nearly everyone exhibits these characteristics to some degree, but they are major personality traits in codependents. A codependent may play one or more of these roles and is unable to change.
*For codependents, the process of recovery is to learn how to take care of themselves and to stop controlling the behavior of others.*
Recovering From Codependency
It is possible to be kind and considerate without being consumed by other people's problems. For codependents, the process of recovery is to learn how to take care of themselves and to stop controlling the behavior of others. In other words, recovering codependents learn to become detached.
Detachment doesn't mean indifference or avoiding responsibility. It simply means finding the balance between giving to others and giving to oneself.
Loving a troubled person can be terribly painful and can have long-lasting effects. Recovering from codependency means acknowledging and letting go of self-destructive habits and fiding ways to build a happy life.
My Name Is Maja I am 25 and I am codependent.
Most of my life I have been alternately a controller and a caretaker.
I have been 'sober' from its symptoms for 7 days now:)....
Huge thanks for that!!:)
to love without attachment. to live without toxicity...
that should be the goal of the entire human race.
the difference in an active codependent and a recovering one is found in the way we choose to deal with life's challenges.
what WE SEE is what reality is.
if we change the way we see things the things we see start to change.
i know for a fact that we are all, as human beings, codependent....what separates a person at a "1" on the scale from a "10" is the amount they are willing to face their own pain, their own responsibility, and feel this pain.
the rest are in denial or using addictions to cope.
hugs!!!!