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Having a tough day

allicat9375
allicat9375
Today every little thing is making me cry. I want to call my boyfriend, but I have chosen to go 30 days without calling him. The bad thing is because I want to connect with someone and I am so glad that my phone broke when a friend called wanting to come over for sex. the sex with that man wouldn't have helped me with my issues with my BF.

I know that my BF is living in an all male sober living house and that he is not allowed to talk to any women or go out with any women while living there so I can be faithful. Today is just a tough day!!!
4everyoung1
4everyoung1
So sorry you are having such a tough day !! I understand - this is all tough !! If you can try and let thinking about all of this for an hour go and breathe, give yourself peace for a moment.

Hang in there !!
hbgdaystar
hbgdaystar
I have been advised by my therapist in the similar circumstances

when there is urge for anything to ask myself Is this is a Need or Want? Also when i am vulnerable for such situations to go for a group meeting or go where there are people surrounded you to get distracted.
scar2
scar2
You will get through this. It does get better. You are now mourning your relationship. As tough as it is, do something positive for yourself today. Know that real love is not supposed to be this hard & hurtful. *Hugs*
allicat9375
allicat9375
I was doing OK until I got the "booty call" vm. I think too the fact that that it that I have been at a friends house since Tuesday and that I am ready to go home, that and I my BF got locked up in October and went to the program in December and I want him in my bed. That and because this week was Valentines and I choose this week for a 30 day no contact goal stinks. I miss him but I need to work on me.

I am also stressed because my friend has butted in when I was on a CODA phone meeting and was saying that doesn't apply to you ,this was the second day that she hainterrupteded my meeting. Time for me to go home so I can
allicat9375
allicat9375
See my thoughts are all over the place my last post was all over the place and unfinished.