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Instead of being honest with myself and others in my life, I tried to please others and got crapped on again. Instead of saying "No I can't", I said "sure I can do that" and now I'm regretting it. Well the lesson here is DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT FOR ME NOT YOU!!! Seems like a pretty simple concept doesn't it. So why is so freaking hard to do? It's like I was caught off guard and instead of saying no, I found myself in AUTOPILOT saying yes.
So does anyone have some advice on how to turn off the AUTOPILOT for good?
Help before the AUTOPILOT takes over.
Stef
So does anyone have some advice on how to turn off the AUTOPILOT for good?
Help before the AUTOPILOT takes over.
Stef
Some limiting beliefs that may be driving this behavior:
1. I should do whatever I can for others
2. It is selfish to put my needs before the needs/wants of others
3. I need to make others happy before I can be happy
Some different beliefs that may work for you instead:
1. I should do what I want to do for others
2. I need to take care of my needs before I can fulfill the needs/wants of others
3. I need to be happy before I can make others happy
I hope this helps. If you're interested in learning more about how to change limiting beliefs, a great read is The Psychology of Happiness by Najemy (my source for the above concept).