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so since i told him i was not happy a week ago and he said that i have changed and was angry. he stays in the bedroom all the time and says that i will never have to talk to him again. told my nephew that he was just ready to end it all so he could spend time with his son in heaven ( he died in a 4 wheeler accident at 3 years old- 15 years ago) and told my niece that he was just going to hang himself in our garage. crying when he talks to them. wow here we go again this happened before the comments about killing himself and i just could not deal withit.before and happening again. this makes all feel sorry for him and scares me. jus t so exhausted with dealing with this and realizing he has serious depression and ijust cant deal with it. i am not an uncaring person but this is a pattern that he does and i feel so uncomfortable. and stressed out. so tired of this and i just cant comfort him as i dont want to get drug into it as i am having trouble staying sane myself. everyone says that i should call his daughter ( this has happened before and it was a mess that i felt was my fault for not just loving and supporting him) have not called her. i end up feeling like the bad person that cant support this depressed and grieving person that is according to his dauther is just a kind and loving person down on his luck. what a fucking mess it is affecting me and my job and personal peace.
I hear your struggle, and i really don't know what i can say to offer support or encouragement. He is obviously a very poorly man who needs more help than you can possibly be able to give. This is not a weakness. I have experienced suicide at close hand from two brothers, one showed no sign of what he was planning, the other made many attempts and we tried to help him but ultimately he made his choice and unless he was locked up we could do nothing more for him. this sounds very clinical but only your partner can go through this, he needs help with his grief from professionals. If he is having other problems with addiction then this is also a profesional area. For your sake you need to get support if you are choosing to stay with him or admit that you can no longer be responsible for him and leave. I had to do this with my brother because i was becoming unwell myself, I loved both my brothers intensely but in that love i had to release them to power higher than myself. Really sorry I can't offer more answers for you.