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sassybabe11
sassybabe11
feel code with my daughter. she is so difficult. thinks that I am trying to control her by asking like what is the granddaughter schedule around holidays so I can get my schedule where she can visit! not letting me permission to check on baby when he was in the hospital. she said u will have to go through me. I mess her schedule with kids up when I visit!! got to let this go. I cant make things like I want- to be a helper and close to them. sucks.
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deleted_user
I just responded to your other posts. If she feels that you are trying to control her, she's going to pull away. Stop and ask yourself: are you trying to control her or certain aspects of her life? Are you letting her lead the way as far as what type of interaction you have with her family, or are you trying to control what type of interaction you have? In reality it is her family, and she is entitled to run it as she sees fit. It may not agree with what you want, but it is her right as a parent.

You mentioned getting back into therapy a while ago. Have you done that? I'm currently working with my therapist on my relationship with my 18 yo son. He's kind of a mess, and the more I try to "help" the more resentful he seems to get toward me. I'm having to take a step back and let him make his own decisions, even if I "know" he'll fail. It's so hard - like watching a car accident in slow motion. I want to jump in and "save" him from making some big mistakes, but my therapist says it's all part of his growing up. I have to let him fail. That is so HARD!