Been away for a little while. Thought i was getting my stuff together, but seeing how things have gone lately, i realize i still have sooo far to go. I had a TERRIBLE online relationship experience and finally decided to venture out into the real world. Met this amazing girl by chance. Wasn't looking, she just sorta came into my orbit. We started to contact each other via email etc as friends. We went out to dinner and had so much in common and such a great time. We spent 5 or 6 hours just talking about life etc. She invited me to her birthday dinner with friends and things were going great. We were definately forming a friendship and I was hopeful that maybe that could turn into more.(yes we both are into women) If not, I was just happy to be around someone who was real and intelligent and fun. She had a very important event come up recently that she and I had talked about at great length. I was not able to attend but thought it would be thoughtful of me to acknowledge it, so i sent her flowers. Not roses or anything..more a friendship kind of bouquet. I think that may have been the thing that set her off. Because she has been distant ever since. Maybe it's just timing. She is really busy, but from the lack of personalization in her texts and msgs back to me and me always having to be the one to initiate contact, I think i can read into the fact that she is now backing away. And I sit wondering again, where i went wrong?

What i perceive as a thoughtful gesture, I guess others see as being over the top. I have trouble balancing the letting someone know you like them, with not trying too hard. I tried limiting my texts etc since she has been away but maybe it was one too many of something or other. i'm not "trying" to get her to like me, I am just being me. And i guess sometimes..that is over the top. Need to learn some restraint. And i really hope with this girl...it's not too late. Any suggestions to salvage this situation and/or to prevent future disasters? Ugh...so tired of this same journey.