Like the Doctor said:
" If a man or woman has no job, few employable skills, little money, lack of shelters or affordable housing can contribute to difficulty leaving. The police may have told the abused party they can do nothing until after an injury occurs. There is no space at the local shelter."
Similar situation happened to me: I was an immigrant from Europe not eligible for any benefits, so I had to get my driving license, green card, citizenship, quit physical type of job at wal mart , do under table jobs to pay for college, get an office job. it took me long time to accomplish all these so all this time I had to stay in abusive relationship.
Financial independence is absolutely necessary to make a change and remove myself from an abusive relationship. Right now I got 7 months of employment (payroll and medical billing/office job since I graduated from college with business degree and I am qualified for the job I guess) getting 15 bucks an hour.. so if I would get a trustworthy/ respectful alanon room mate from MA where I live who would pay half of rent and I would pay the other half.. that would work better than shelter scenario since I have 2 cats and I am not the sociable type to handle a warehouse filled with women (I call shelter a warehouse because it looks like a big warehouse with small beds ).. Why I am interested in alanon room mate? Because I met a couple of people from alanon at alanon meetings in Massachusetts area and they seems to be really respectful, gentle and responsible type of the people ... Oh by the way my husband is alcoholic, drug addict and mentally ill..so heavy load I was caring during this 12 years .. I remember I was doing my difficult home work (I am from eastern Europe so English is my second language) for college while my husband snorting crack cocaine right in front of me... other times he was pushing me to the wall because I wasn't doig house work right way America ways.. insulting me for small reasons.. all kind of stuff that I resent him for.. cant forgive him either.. he is sober from cocaine for 2 years and 4 month sober from buzz but his abusive behavior is same bad.. so time for me to move on... love is gone too... looking forward to meet my future responsible, harmless and trustworthy room mate ... if you exist then give me a sign.... I am lili.hunt at yahoo dot com .. please contact me especially if you live in the same area where I live (in Massachusetts).