Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I was a bit surprised recently when my wife told me she had been diagnosed as codependent. It makes sense, though, as she's always trying to take care of her mother and her siblings and always trying to fix them. If any of them are arguing with each other she's always trying to smooth things over.
This isn't going away, either, because she strongly believes that some codependent behaviors are absolutely normal for a woman, mainly the ones that involve taking care of her family. She's believed all this since childhood and it is firmly rooted in her.
The problem I'm having here is that I'm NOT one of those people that she's taking care of. Her care seems to only extend to immediate blood relations. This has set my mind to wondering about being taken care of elsewhere. I'm especially vulnerable due to my own codependence and Dependent Personality Disorder. Every time those thoughts come up I immediately put them back down, but this is going to be difficult over the long haul.
Anyone have some thoughts on this or insight that might help me stay in line?
This isn't going away, either, because she strongly believes that some codependent behaviors are absolutely normal for a woman, mainly the ones that involve taking care of her family. She's believed all this since childhood and it is firmly rooted in her.
The problem I'm having here is that I'm NOT one of those people that she's taking care of. Her care seems to only extend to immediate blood relations. This has set my mind to wondering about being taken care of elsewhere. I'm especially vulnerable due to my own codependence and Dependent Personality Disorder. Every time those thoughts come up I immediately put them back down, but this is going to be difficult over the long haul.
Anyone have some thoughts on this or insight that might help me stay in line?
Human beings are rather complicated and that makes the study of our emotions and feelings as super interesting, and the study and treatment of codependency is the coolest discipline of them all - IMO.
I say this link here below explains it in much deeper details:
https://independentfew.wordpress.com/2014/10/13/codependency-definition/
The main thing is to let your wife treat her self and you treat your self and you both are different people, so you both have different realities and different everything.