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sassybabe11
sassybabe11
boy am i ever relying on my newly acquired appropirate boundaires. they protect me from those that feel that i should be going things that are not my responsibility. it feels good to know finally that usually i do the best i can and try to stay honest and look at my motives for my statements or actions. not perfect by any means just sharing how good it feels to not let the boundary invaders that i am surrounded by invade my psyche or inner child.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi,

That is great! It does feel wonderful when we realize that we do not have to stay stuck. We can wade out of the muck and take care of ourselves. When I honestly do take care of myself, the anger and frustration does not manifest like it did before.

I don't feel the need to be angry about other people asking me for things, because I have put limits on what I will do. So, then it does not matter what they ask for. I can decide what I am okay with doing (or not). It is very liberating.

Hugs,

Shar
KateBgreat
KateBgreat
That's awesome! Love to hear good news! How did you do it? Did you read a certain book or follow certain principles to help with boundaries?
LeafOnTheWind
LeafOnTheWind
That is fantastic, sassy :) Good stuff. I am so pleased to hear that you are feeling better and making such good progress. Fantastic.
seekinghealthy101
seekinghealthy101
this is a great post. I am so glad for you. I was able to set a couple of appropriate boundaries, even though I felt uncomfortable when it was time to speak up this week, I did it.

Learning to overcome the feeling that I should not hurt other people's feelings is a work in progress for me.

My friend has a saying "You cannot take care of your own needs and simultaneously take care of other people's feelings. People can take care of their own feelings. You must take care of your own needs." This saying has really helped me.

Kudos on your practice of setting healthy boundaries.