Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I've taken some steps to stand my ground the last few weeks and it's soooo hard!!
I have cut off all contact that doesn't have to do with our daughter and his car had broken down and where I would usually try to help fix it and make sure he gets to work, etc. I have told him NO.
I'm annoyed he's not looking for a full time job and he's spending his days playing video games, sleeping and texting and meeting other women online, but I have kept my mouth shut and gone about my business.
I have cut off all contact that doesn't have to do with our daughter and his car had broken down and where I would usually try to help fix it and make sure he gets to work, etc. I have told him NO.
I'm annoyed he's not looking for a full time job and he's spending his days playing video games, sleeping and texting and meeting other women online, but I have kept my mouth shut and gone about my business.
Hurray!
It is hard when you start to do this. I wish I could say that I found it getting easier, in reality the CHOICE gets easier but the implementation seems to stay hard. Perhaps it is a permanent result of growing up codependent. Like having a broken bone will leave one predicting incoming storms for many years to life.
Anyway, keep up the good work.
He will eventually realize that you are not rushing in to save him from himself. The law or someone will come to point out his adult responsibilities. Let him suffer the natural consequences of his choices. He may turn a corner and choose better and better - there is HOPE!
Thank you for letting us all know that you are having success.
Take care
Stay strong
You can do this
Sunny