Welcome aboard, recovery is a life long
process i keep finding, Hugs

Thank you, mirandac. I hope you have a great day :)

Welcome back ....

Thank you, Salina :)

Glad to have you back aboard this DS lifeboat, Holborn. Please feel free to read through older posts and replies to get to know us newer folks better. In the meantime congrats on getting back to self care, and comforting hugs as needed.

Hi anything particular that's sent you back here? Always here to listen.

Thank you, Simpsonsok, I will. I look forward to sharing my current story, as well as learning about others

Hi LettGoBreathe.

I left one bad relationship and got caught up immediately in another difficult one. It is hard because I can feel very clearly that I'm not free to be myself... saying the wrong thing, approaching her with a question at the wrong time, being "too quiet," or acting like something's wrong can bring a multi-hour or multi-day shit storm of anger, which makes me live my life partially holding my breath. There are some things that make it extremely difficult and unsettling to leave, however. I'm not sure what to do.

Wow she sounds a bit controlling! Or maybe just too sensitive and expects you to know better? I can definitely sense some issues on both sides there... she is expecting you to anticipate her needs/wants and you are worrying when you are not able to do that! It seems she should be able to tell you /discuss the issue and perhaps you could ask her to do that?

maryjan, thanks for your response. if you would like to talk, add me as a friend and I will write you with some more detail. I'm not ready to share in the group yet

Holborn, I have been in relationships where I finally realize that I can't even breathe right (my expression). My part is my codependency; their part is usually narcissism with control. They find us, and then we volunteer to stay. We do get better. Comforting hugs.