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well not posted for awhile as my grandbaby was born with premature lungs but been there alot. he is doing good now after 2 weeks of ICU. thanks for all the positive thoughts and prayers for him. Praise to God. my daughter has been a mess and she has also been difficult to deal with and short and is overwhelmed with all and acts like i am stressing her out wheni am there. want to help but feel l like i am walking on egg shells at her house. so been staying home more. they are this was with weveryone not just me and her mother in law has been feeling the same. so we have been venting about it some. i do alot for them and dont feel appreciated.
sister is in hospital with pneumonia and is not doing good. my non-sick sister is just really hard to be around. so many of us have our own problems but she does nothing but talk about herself and sick sister. planning future while she is in ER last night, insisting that she is right about everything and totally oblivious to anyone else with a problem. i cant stand being around her and her cheerleaders that run and kiss her ass at the drop of a hat. they all go on and on about how they all help each other and how we all need each other. here i go again- not there for me when son was sick. so i just dont get drug into the drunken crying about how they are so there for each other. i find this annoying and feel uncomfortable.
need to protect myself and avoid situations that i feel uncomfortable in. i do not want to take the victim role with daughter and again and again really dont like my sister -narcisstic, self absored, and out of controll. when my sister passes i want to gradually get to the point that we are only together at occasional family gatherings. i know that so many of you have had to totally cut family ties and feel better when u do.
i have come along way in detaching and plan to continue. my question to other is this- what do you do when you have a sister that you dont like ( for good reasons) crying and sobbing and hanging on you when you cant stand it. i cant take her crying and rambling shit.
sister is in hospital with pneumonia and is not doing good. my non-sick sister is just really hard to be around. so many of us have our own problems but she does nothing but talk about herself and sick sister. planning future while she is in ER last night, insisting that she is right about everything and totally oblivious to anyone else with a problem. i cant stand being around her and her cheerleaders that run and kiss her ass at the drop of a hat. they all go on and on about how they all help each other and how we all need each other. here i go again- not there for me when son was sick. so i just dont get drug into the drunken crying about how they are so there for each other. i find this annoying and feel uncomfortable.
need to protect myself and avoid situations that i feel uncomfortable in. i do not want to take the victim role with daughter and again and again really dont like my sister -narcisstic, self absored, and out of controll. when my sister passes i want to gradually get to the point that we are only together at occasional family gatherings. i know that so many of you have had to totally cut family ties and feel better when u do.
i have come along way in detaching and plan to continue. my question to other is this- what do you do when you have a sister that you dont like ( for good reasons) crying and sobbing and hanging on you when you cant stand it. i cant take her crying and rambling shit.
I hope your new grandbaby is doing well, getting stronger and that your daughter is feeling better as well. You have surely had a stressful time. It is diffidult to deal with a cry baby sister in the best of times but almost impossible with all you have had going on. I did cut off my baby sister for over a year. I don't think she ever understood or wanted to understand why I did that but it did make a difference in our relationship. I still feel such conflict inside because as much as I love my younger sister, there are times when I am shocked by something she does or says. She can act like such a self centered snob. Then I feel as if I don't know her or like her. Sometimes I wonder if I haven't built up this ideal picture of my baby sister. She has many great qualities but maybe I have created this perfect person in my mind and in reality it doesn't fit. The one thing that has happened recently that has helped is humor and not taking it all too seriously. It is a bit of a hump to get over from feeling frustrated and annoyed to seeing the humor in this shallow behavior. I know the circumstances of being in the hospital with one sister so sick and the other acting so selfish isn't the right situation to find humor but I can see where it could be a laugh for you. You described your sister and her friends in such a funny way even if you were fed up and annoyed I could almost picture it all. And I could see you rolling your eye balls and making some witty or snide remark; maybe even doing the whole kiss kiss air kissing thing. I couldn't have a laugh before I got some distance from my sister. But now I don't take her behavior so personally or seriously.