Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
hubby is controling. if i do not do as he wants without a fight (verbal) he asks for a divorce . i gave my power away now i want it back. my power is control over my own life. not a whipping boy when he feels bad about somethng. he has two speeds one happy the other angry, which he is now. he came to sons house and wanted to physicaly hit sister and my son. in the past he has put his hands on my son and shoved me twice. i feel he disrespected sons house by fighting (he was in a fighting stance and fists in the air) he was angry at my sister for not speaking to him while son was in the hospital. son set a boundry not to disresoect me or my sister in his presence. hubby is not taking any of the blame. he is mad at me, do not do weii with cold angry treatment
I say no one can do well with cold angry treatment.
If that is not an immediate issue, it would be helpful for you to participate in a local organization that counsels women who are engaged in domestic violence. There does not need to be physical violence for there to be domestic violence, which is abusive control over a family member.
On a spiritual note, I did not get better (and I was a victim of domestic violence in my first marriage) until I got help for what was going on with me. I picked the men I was involved with, and I stayed voluntarily. That is my disease of codependency. If you can get involved in a local CoDA meeting, that will probably give you the immediate and consistent guidance you need to see your part in this. Control does not take place in a vacuum. It goes both ways and it takes two people to keep it going. Welcome to the site.