I can only say to do whats best for you and
your children sake.

Can you go to Alanon, Coda or start some
type of therapy to help you get stronger.

Glad your anti depression med is helping
with gaining some clarity, Hugs

Sorry just saw this. Thank you. Went to alanon but not really for me as far as the people there. Things are better. He’s not around.

I have found in recovery its been
mostly About me and my issues
not so Much about the other guy.

When I had started in alanon i sat,
cried, listened, learned and absorbed
for close to Two years and by the end
of the Two years i was no longer a
doormat.

Have you read Melodie Beattie’s
Codependent no more or the new
Codependency. Many people read
Her, HUGS

I lived with an addict for nearly 16 years. I lost so much of myself. I was/am damaged from living in the chaos for years. I've recently started a blog to write about my past and my present. I write about the emotional damage i endured and the work i'm putting into undoing the damage so my past doesn't ruin my present or my future. This site helped me through some of my darkest moments. I wanted to come back to where i vented when i was lost and where i received encouragement when i felt all alone, miserable and hopeless.


If anyone wants to follow my page and read about my journey in hopes that i can help someone else escape the turmoil..follow my page on facebook - Lemons to Lemonade Blog


The facebook page has a link to my wix blog page where the full post can be read.


I hope all of you can heal the wounds inside of you and move forward in life.. its been liberating.

Codependents are rarely stupid; we just get into dysfunctional relationships. You have had a form of space to reestablish your family, meaning you and the children. Do you believe that his return will make this better? You will likely lose the routines you have built up, and have an additional mouth to feed. Yes, we let them back in until we get better. We usually do that by building a real time support group, which is where CODA may be a fit. Old 12 step saying: Only you can do it, but you cannot do it alone. Setting boundaries and conditions for returning are critical. Examples: he will agree to go to AA 6 times a week; he will look for employment immediately; if there is a Peer Recovery Center they will have lists of companies that hire convicted felons, so don't buy into the "nobody will hire an ex-con" line; look up the reentry programs which all states offer for more help. If he has changed, he will be willing to build a new life. We will be here to support you and your recovery. By the way, some AlAnon meetings have folks to watch children during the meetings. Comforting hugs as you begin this journey.

Hi all:

It seems to me that the Lady here ( "LW" ) does not want the truth, and surely if we do tell her the truth it will come off as offensive, and also surely is that she already knows it anyway.

She says that her felony BF was to get released in 2 months so he must already be out some time ago and she is surely trying her best to give him her "undivided attention" as she said above in her OP.

One part that really troubles me is that she said that she started taking antidepressants and she said that the medication was working - and that is just so wrong.

She has at least 2 young children ("kids" plural) and her violent BF who has always had a "temper" is getting out of prison - so yes that was the time to get depressed and time to get anxious and to be worried and not to be taking medicine which interferes with those rightful feelings and emotions.

My advice is to get far away from that man, and for God sake get the children away from him - but some how she can not figure that out for her self.

She says = " People would tell me I’m a complete fool if they knew what was happening. "

Well yeah!