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we have been having this relationship where we fight a lot and he actually broke up with me several times and I always felt the need to get back and make it alright again..
What have 1 done...
yesterday he said he clint want a thing with
me. And today I convinced him to take this
trip to a village nearby. we had lots of fun
but in the way back home we had a mini
fight and I figured he still blames me for
things that I find that aren't really my fault.
he said that we should get back together
but then he didn't want to say those words
and he got annoyed at me for not saying
them... He blames me that I took him there
Just to mess with his recovery.. And we
came home, made love, and talked about
it. He hasn't been able to sleep and it broke
my heart. I v told him 1 think we are not
ready to be a couple... And he asks me
why 1 took him in that trip. 1 missed him so
much and I was miserable I Just wanted
him near, but I don't understand what's
wrong with me now! I wanted him back but
I feellike I'm not ready... I'm nuts! and I've
told him about trying to be friends but he's
scared we ll lose ourselves in the middle
and wants to be"something in undefined".
I'm afraid we are becoming a joke of
breaking up getting back together. I don't
understand my feelings at all. please help
me!
What have 1 done...
yesterday he said he clint want a thing with
me. And today I convinced him to take this
trip to a village nearby. we had lots of fun
but in the way back home we had a mini
fight and I figured he still blames me for
things that I find that aren't really my fault.
he said that we should get back together
but then he didn't want to say those words
and he got annoyed at me for not saying
them... He blames me that I took him there
Just to mess with his recovery.. And we
came home, made love, and talked about
it. He hasn't been able to sleep and it broke
my heart. I v told him 1 think we are not
ready to be a couple... And he asks me
why 1 took him in that trip. 1 missed him so
much and I was miserable I Just wanted
him near, but I don't understand what's
wrong with me now! I wanted him back but
I feellike I'm not ready... I'm nuts! and I've
told him about trying to be friends but he's
scared we ll lose ourselves in the middle
and wants to be"something in undefined".
I'm afraid we are becoming a joke of
breaking up getting back together. I don't
understand my feelings at all. please help
me!
That is hormones and not love.
At your age the hormones are super strong and your body is just making demands onto you (and his hormones too) and you both are being controlled by your sexual apatite.
Brain says no - body says yes - hormones are constantly both night and day making demands on our animal instincts.
A boundary is where we use our brain to control our body, so telling "no" to your desires is the healthiest boundary of them all.
When you miss him it might feel like it is in your mind while the missing is really a chemical reaction called hormones.
See in this link see specifically # 5 and # 6
http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-Love-As-a-Chemical-Reaction
Just saying.