Well breath, and don't take the date so serious, after all it just a date.. Dating shouldn't be about expectation.. It should be out going out with another person having good time. Set boundaries, and maybe get to know the person over a group gather your more comfortable with. Dating have been mishapen as trail for marriage it seem now days.. and it hard to cut loose and relax cause everyone want Mr/Ms Right, when it should be Mr/Ms Right now. I am not great advice but I think you'll do great once you relax.. I know this going to sound off the wall ever consider yoga or meditation? Or a good work out of some sort before the date?

Thanks I do need to relax

There's a good book I think it's called how to find a date worth keeping, which suggests to not think of them as your former mate but to use the experience as one to learn about yourself and consider being open to taking on new interests that the other person has.

Do you know the name of the book

When you have just started dating you shouldn't even be considering what might happen with the relationship in the future. Just enjoy yourself.

I think the key is just to live one day at a time and let the relationship follow its own natural course.

I often think that the problem that often occurs when we have been married for a while is that we are always thinking about the future and don't give ourself time just to live each day as it comes.