Yep - all the time. But I also felt very alone in my marriage, so really no change since I moved out. I have family around, but only 1 real close friend, who I see at work just about every day. They say we have to work on being comfortable being alone, and being our own best friends. That's what I'm trying to do. My therapist says something similar: he's concerned that I don't have any real support in my life. I relied on my spouse for support, but it was never there. Now I have to rely on myself. It can be very lonely sometimes, but it gets better.

There is a time for everything. The alone time is necessary. Perhaps try embracing it rather than viewing it as a negative as this too shall pass.

I know about the alone times is the only reason I can comment
thegobetween.

Sometimes we, as humans, need to take our ques from nature and her cycles.

I have the same issue. I am facing being alone for 50% of my time (the time without my kids) very soon and I really haven't been alone in a very long time.

I am scared by it, but I am also trying to think positively and embrace it. I am journaling every day, I am thinking of goals I have wanted to accomplish but have never been able to. I am thinking about how to broaden my support network (through exercise, volunteering, etc.)

Its a scary time, but I have a feeling that I'll be fine. I just have to be patient with myself, take care of myself and look for the positive aspects of it.

Anyway, just my thoughts.

I am my own best friend how many people view it that way..
I am never bithered being alone because i love me and talking to self and being in the preaent are two things i enjoy now in recovery... others think i am anti their laws ... which i dont care... its me that completes me :-).

I agree with daystar....I am learning how to become my own best friend. What bugged me at first was people saying I was "isolating" but I wasn't I was just separating for awhile from the herd.

I love the things I enjoy doing with myself because most of the people I know are TV freaks, boring....gossip...go to bars...boring...but it took me some time to find myself because I lived so long allowing myself to be defined by others and seeking myself from the external.

I have been extremely surprised at who I am....and the surprises are constantly coming on....I am quite an interesting colorful fantastic woman I really enjoy to be around. Now others want to be around me and I am attracting some people who I never dreamed would permit me in their lives. Never give up. Like a marine....never give up even when the going gets real hard....that is when the break through is coming. That is if you are in recovery, not in a bad relationship.

Thanks so much, some really thoughtful comments. My therapist wants me to think a lot about how it felt to be alone as a child in my very traumatic home...and i think i'm projecting that into my 'alone' time now, by mistake.

That gut wrenching feeling of loneliness is terrible, I've been there many times. What I have found that works very well is keeping busy in the beginning, then after a couple of weekends alone it is a little better. Going for a nice brisk walk can help ward off the ill feelings as well. But I think recognizing how it makes you feel is very important and believing you will make it through and you are ok.