Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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sassybabe11 03/26/2013

have not been on for awhile. and missing u all. i am trying to not be affected by the ex blasting me to everyone and the loan will be final this week. i will give him money after trying so hard to give him this money, finally he signed and notarized the agreement after almost 2 months. so he does it right and calls me and says that he needs the money now. really i said you could have already had it but u have not done this signing till now. so like i should feel bad? YOUR LACK OF ACTION IS NOT MY EMERGENCY. but i am really stressed out and even called in sick a day this week as i was overwhlelmed and actually drank to much. i need prayer and reminders that i am doing what i need to do to take care of myself. but even thought i am depressed i know that i did what i needed to do to take care of myself. my job sucks and i dread each day. still need to change things ONE DAY AT A TIME. hope u all have peace and direction in your lives and keep posting

deleted_user 03/27/2013

Hi Sassy: As hard as it is, please don't drink. It may numb you at the moment, but it isn't good for feeling depressed and can make you feel more depressed.

Please take care of yourself because you are a good person and worth being treated well. You deserve to have peace and I hope you can relax a bit and imagine a beach with a covered comfy bed and you get to be in that bed. Melt into that bed and hear the waves, and the wind and the birds, Feel the tension escape from your toes and float away to the sky. You are on Serenity Beach and this is your special spot that you can return to.

deleted_user 03/27/2013

You had to send him on his way - no other way to heal yourself. Stop beating yourself up about it. He is the one that was the problem in your relationship. Believe it and let him go. Tell your friends/relatives that he talks to to not tell you what he says about you. I get the same thing from my kids and mutual acquaintances, and it really annoys me.

Please don't overdue with the alcohol. It will only make you more depressed. Feel your pain, then let it go. I hope this Easter will bring you some peace (don't spend it with those crazy relatives if you can help it!).

sassybabe11 03/29/2013

thanks so much for the postings. very helpful. thinking its time for maybe AA and starting chruch. i am in a bad rountine and finding it hard to get out of. love that about the bed and yes i need to relax and stop numbing myself but i am so stressed and worry so muchthat i find it hard to do right now. do i sound like i am beating myself up? wow i need you guys insight. i re read my post and it does. i want a different life and it going to take more hard work on my part and changing this destructive path that i take daily with alcohol, worry, and stress. need to stop making excuses for my abuse of alcohol and face up to it. it was a difficult thing for me to end that relationship, but i realized how it was harming me. now its time to stop harming myself. i deserve better and to take care of myself and build a new life. thanks again so much

deleted_user 04/01/2013

You can do it. You've come so far already.

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