I don't quite understand this question. Do you mean dependent on anger for a relationship, in that you need anger to feel you have a good relationship? Please explain.

I do not understand the question either, but it sounds like the point is that a person is seen as usually or always angry.

In codependency a lot of people will act as if they are angry when they are not really angry at all.

As like one feels fear so they strike out as if angry when it is really just fear striking out.

A person being guilty will often pretend to be angry as a way to cover up their guilt.

People in pain will act angry, and acting angry gives people a feeling of power when they are really feeling powerless.

The feeling of anger is actually far different than being angry, because when a healthy person feels anger then they will do some thing about the anger instead of acting out.

As like if one gets threatened or assaulted by another person, then the healthy person might calmly seek to call the police instead of angrily fighting back.

Or "turn the other cheek" (as the saying goes) instead of responding with an angry outburst.

Peace.

My son is angry with me any time I place limits on his behavior. He has a sense of entitlement that makes him feel he should gets what he wants every time he asks for something. When I say no he goes ballistic. He is 25 .

Part of his anger stems from his lack of confidence in being able to taker care of himself. IT is classic hostile dependency. The upshot of my point is that I don't care to be his target anymore and I refuse to continue to enable his sense of entitlement.

MY son depends on his anger to get what he wants.

Yes, I used anger to get what I wanted for years. What I've learned about my anger is the root of it is my lack of Self Control. When I'm not in control, I tend to go for anger first. It's usually over reaction, which is not good. Anger is dysfunctional for me, I guess as a child nobody ever valued my opinion. If I gave it I was knocked across the room. When I did finally discover anger, it became self destructive as it was always a over re-action. I often used it on people who were weaker or meeker than I. It progressed. I finally through work with a good therapist got a handle on it. Although I wasn't allowed to react as I had. I learned a few behavioral modification techniques that helped. Like doing the exact opposite of what I used to do. Like if I yelled I had to whisper. Usually my anger wasn't totally unjustified. (like with my dysfunctional husband staying out all night,) We just had this thing we did......
He did his "MY Bad." I would yell......
When I took the therapist advice and remained calm, not only did I learn to control my anger, my dysfunctional husband didn't understand why I whispered instead of yelling. I had changed the dance we had been doing.

Also to me....
If someone changes the dance and doesn't react to anger, it sometimes make the anger mute.