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I'm working on setting boundaries in my crappy relationship. I know I should be working on leaving this relationship, but I know from past attempts that I'm not there yet.
I'm 2 weeks post back surgery. Saw my doctor yesterday & he said I still can't drive for one or two more weeks. My bf has been doing all the driving, shopping, etc. for the last 2 weeks & this morning he said. "Well, you can drive, your doctor just doesn't want you to."
I do want to drive. Being housebound makes me crazy, especially with his crazy, but I won't. I won't jeopardize the success of my surgery, just because he doesn't want to go to the store.
I told him that I won't drive until the doctor release me to. He did not get pissy about it.
Small victory
I'm 2 weeks post back surgery. Saw my doctor yesterday & he said I still can't drive for one or two more weeks. My bf has been doing all the driving, shopping, etc. for the last 2 weeks & this morning he said. "Well, you can drive, your doctor just doesn't want you to."
I do want to drive. Being housebound makes me crazy, especially with his crazy, but I won't. I won't jeopardize the success of my surgery, just because he doesn't want to go to the store.
I told him that I won't drive until the doctor release me to. He did not get pissy about it.
Small victory
Cheers to you, but cheers to him too.
When boundaries are done correctly then everything gets better.
Maybe he was trying to make you feel better about trying to drive if you were tempted to...???
Hugs.
If & when he drinks enough to start repeating himself & repeating stories that he's told me so many times before, I will tell him that he is repeating himself & getting difficult to talk to.
May seem like a reasonable thing to say, but I don't expect a reasonable response.
If/when he gives a nasty response, I will remove myself.
This will be a huge thing for me & something I have wanted to do for so long
I've been told many times this truth and it holds true. "when the pain of where you are exceeds the fear of where you want to go, you'll begin to take action." My biggest fear is fear of the unknown. The opposite of fear is faith. Today, I take action, do the next right thing and let God deal with the results. Works pretty well. :)
So I guess my point here is that I held my boundary and things got scary real fast. I had a right to do this, but when dealing with an alcoholic, you can never tell how they will respond. Be careful