Cleft Lip / Palate Support Group
Cleft is a congenital deformity caused by a failure in facial development during gestation. It can be treated with surgery shortly after birth with highly successful results. Cleft occurs in somewhere between one in 600 and one in 800 births. Cleft occurs in several severities and is divided in two major categories: cleft lip and cleft palate.
I understand that this is hard for you but I think that you should just inform your boyfriend on what's going on. Now, I personally have never been in a relationship my whole life but I believe that you could benefit from having his support while going through this whole process.