Cleft Lip / Palate Support Group
Cleft is a congenital deformity caused by a failure in facial development during gestation. It can be treated with surgery shortly after birth with highly successful results. Cleft occurs in somewhere between one in 600 and one in 800 births. Cleft occurs in several severities and is divided in two major categories: cleft lip and cleft palate.
Being a woman in today's society is hard enough..however being a woman who has a cleft lip in todays society is far from challenging...
I'm 33 and was born with unilateral cleft lip & palate. I would think that my life would be better by now after years of going to school and managing a normal life around mean and shallow kids one would think that it has prepared you for the real world...but truth of a matter is that life never gets easier and life dissapointments never get old. Im in that age where I want to experience being in a relationship and perhaps start a family of my own...but sadly I don't have the ideal qualities to even attract a man..recently I was dating a guy who i thought was different from the rest but sadly he turned out to be just as shallow as they get...
I have come to realize that I need to accept that I will be single forever. I need to get used to seeing all my friends find love and have kids while I rely on faith that one day I will be able to know what is like to be wanted and in love....
Wow, I thought I was the only one. Granted, I'm still fairly young anything can happen but I don't think that really changes the odds for me. I find myself flip flopping on feelings similar to yours and I can understand the difficulties of trying to keep your head up.
But it sounds like you gave love a shot with that guy even though he ended up being not so great and that is extremely important. Did you find him on a dating site or something? I tried those and threw in the towel completely. Just a bunch of weirdos or guys just wanting to fuck.
I say, go join groups that you share a common interest with like clubs or sports. Maybe that could lead to possible connections.