Cleft Lip / Palate Support Group
Cleft is a congenital deformity caused by a failure in facial development during gestation. It can be treated with surgery shortly after birth with highly successful results. Cleft occurs in somewhere between one in 600 and one in 800 births. Cleft occurs in several severities and is divided in two major categories: cleft lip and cleft palate.
What life have been going on right now. Before I started writing in here. I am glad to meeting you guys here on Daily Strength site. It wasn't easy to open up to people a lot and not knowing how other Cleft lip/Palate are going through with it.
I am doing well where am now, living by myself doing what best I can do. When my family is far away from me, i know I can just call them from my cell phone. My brothers and sisters did said that if I need a talk i can call them. Say that I am not that close to most of them which I wish we were but no. I do love them. I have few friends, cousins that I know I do hang out with time to time. On the long run I feel I still don't know most of them because i don't know there name well also we don't hang out that much. I think that they are thinking I am not being a good friend to them. I could be wrong but my gild tell me so.
I am getting a feeling that whenever i talk or do things make people feel weird.Then it make me feel scare and stop what I am doing. I know that I should accept whatever I do and be happy. This is how I feel....... I put myself down of what i can't do and wish that I can change my history of being born again. I don't see the gift that Gods have gave me in to this world. I got put down by a christian person who say that I am not acting like a christian and I should stop which I do believe in him. Just having a hard time making a living here on earth. Lastly nothing is going as plan as I were want/seek it.
My world here as I am trying to be me, getting where I can grow up to be a better person. Maybe I am not doing what I want to do but holding myself back as a failed, IDK lost. It may look like I am not happy but I am so so to this world, need to find a life that will change it all. I haven't found it yet but I hope I do. The big question is what is wrong with me? Am I not accepting myself well you tell me.
Sorry if my spelling and grammar isn't in a right place. That is one of the few I look down at. Thx.
I am doing well where am now, living by myself doing what best I can do. When my family is far away from me, i know I can just call them from my cell phone. My brothers and sisters did said that if I need a talk i can call them. Say that I am not that close to most of them which I wish we were but no. I do love them. I have few friends, cousins that I know I do hang out with time to time. On the long run I feel I still don't know most of them because i don't know there name well also we don't hang out that much. I think that they are thinking I am not being a good friend to them. I could be wrong but my gild tell me so.
I am getting a feeling that whenever i talk or do things make people feel weird.Then it make me feel scare and stop what I am doing. I know that I should accept whatever I do and be happy. This is how I feel....... I put myself down of what i can't do and wish that I can change my history of being born again. I don't see the gift that Gods have gave me in to this world. I got put down by a christian person who say that I am not acting like a christian and I should stop which I do believe in him. Just having a hard time making a living here on earth. Lastly nothing is going as plan as I were want/seek it.
My world here as I am trying to be me, getting where I can grow up to be a better person. Maybe I am not doing what I want to do but holding myself back as a failed, IDK lost. It may look like I am not happy but I am so so to this world, need to find a life that will change it all. I haven't found it yet but I hope I do. The big question is what is wrong with me? Am I not accepting myself well you tell me.
Sorry if my spelling and grammar isn't in a right place. That is one of the few I look down at. Thx.
One thing that has helped me deal with negative patterns of thinking is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT. We tend to make things out a lot worse than they need to be by the way we think about them, so CBT is about getting rid of those not-useful, distorted thoughts. The problem is not that they're BAD thoughts, but that they're not true. For example, a lot of people think in terms of things that they "should" do, which makes them feel guilty. Is it true that you "should" accept what ever you and be happy -- or just that you would be happier if you did? It's up to you. If you have a habit of criticizing yourself (like so many other people), then it might take some work to break that habit. It's not your fault that you can't just change the way you think all at once.
I used to be a Christian myself, but I could describe myself as "spiritual" and/or agnostic now. I try to look on the bright side and not be influenced by how society views things. I am sure you have some gift that could mean a lot to somebody. I hope you can start seeing some positives in your life soon.