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This group originally had been formed to lend support and to have open discussion on the topic of dissociation. We have since opened up to all aspects of PTSD, BPD, DID, BIP, Depression, etc. Basically our group is a safe supportive (non judgemental) place for open discussion on any somewhat related topic. We do not discriminate. We consider ourselves to be...

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Sunrise! Sunset!

insecure
insecure
Amazing the Sun Rises and Sets whether I do or don't! I'm sitting here watching the Sun Rise beautiful as it is and thinking 16 or so hours it will set and more than likely I'll still be sitting here! I just can't seem to get out of this black fucking hole!!I try I really do, listen to music which then sets off memories of my Husband then I cry for what was and now will never be! shop and spend money which half the time I don't remember!Sat in therapy yesterday and for 20 minutes in a trance then started talking as if I just arrived! Sunrise Sunset!!
blackdog999
blackdog999
Maybe you don't need to get out of the black hole right now...maybe its your time to just go with the flow...cry, mope, whine, stare, scream, whatever....I think there's a time for fighting and there's a time for letting go. I just sense its your time to let go.....the healing can happen on its on without your help and nothing is going to heal this hurt except time

wrap yourself in the biggest fluffiest duvet you can find and wait it out

xxxx love to you insecure xxx love and hope xxxx
deleted_user
deleted_user
blackdog, I think that is great advice -- I may take it myself!! Insecure -- you are entitled to your feelings. They are fully understandable given what you've gone through (and I don't know the whole story). I still deeply grieve the deaths of both of my parents, even though they did some unthinkable things. Some things in life genuinely suck. I'm not saying go down into the black hole forever, but, as blackdog suggests maybe you need to let your feelings flow free right now.

Lots of love,
Clair
Group FounderRaeFx
RaeFx
I also agree. Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time frame.
The grief over the loss of your husband will take time. You do not ever have to forget him but the sharp pain of his death will dull with time.

If you want to get out of the black hole and fog for yourself you can work on that as well. But please know it is ok to take time and self love when you need it. Get a massage, curl up in that duvet, drink some wonderful tea and watch the sunset or sunrise, etc....You can have both.

much love and many hugs...