You do belong...it's just hard to feel like it right now. I know for a fact that you belong here with us in Clarity.
WE understand your pain and we are all here for you at all times.
many hugs girl.
love you!

I've felt that way for years so i know how you feel. I've just kinda accepted it as a fact of my life. Not I'm happy about it but I gave up trying long ago. I don't even feel like I belong here in my daughter and sil's home eventhough I've lived with them for about 4 years now. I didn't fit in with my family of origin but that's OK. Or I should say it became very OK with me as time went along. They were all sick and used me for their scapegoat so they could feel OK about themselves. Oops way off subject. Sorry.

You belong here. I don't know about you but knowing I have a place online where I belong does help me a lot.

I often feel the same insecure. I fought it for so long....then one day I just took a long hard look round at the madness and you know what I said...I don't want to belong to that...for a long while I thought I was not good enough for anyone else and people hurt me and bullied me and pushed me away...eventually after about 25 years of prolonged suffering....and the twisted pain of being unwanted...I realised I don't want them anymore. they don't fit in with ME!!!

Maybe you are a little different...maybe....or maybe you do fit it you just don't feel it because you're insecure...

But I know you fit in with ME. I like you and I always like to hear what you have to say here and I can relate cos I have usually felt it/ am feeling it too.

Love you insecure. xx

Thanks for your replies though I still feel the same! So The Cowboy Rides Away!

hmm....Cowboys are pretty cool
xx

I never met one, but i'm sure they are!

insecure, I'm sorry you are feeling this way. It does hurt. I speak from experience. Just want you to know you belong here with us, because we really care and value you as the wonderful person you are!

(((Gentle hugs, my Friend)))

I like blackdog's reply about *them* not fitting in with him. That's pretty much the same conclusion I came to. I see so many "cliques" and stuff and to set and watch ppl sometimes I think to myself, no thanks.

insecure you DO belong here.

Just wanted to add my belated reply to insecure and everyone on Clairty who is suffering. We all know what's like. We all have our "days" that are worse than others. I had mine today, but Rae came through for me %1000. And I knew that when I logged on here, I'd be among friends who really understood.

You are all so wonderful. I hope we can learn to love and respect ourselves the way we obviously love and respect each other.

I also have always had a hard time feeling like I "belong"

It's so good to know we have a safe place to come & share our feelings.

I had to come and say that cowboys are so cool!! My Mikey is a good old boy! lol...

I also am glad to have all of you for support. This is exactly the type of group that Clair envisioned.

xxx

It's a song! still don't belong they say the first step is acceptance so at this time i'll say thanks for starting this group!Blessings to all!!

Hi insecure. I'm Bridget and I'm new to this group, so I thought I would start with the "belong" post.

I'm wondering.....Why do you feel like you don't fit in? Why do you feel like you are on the outside looking in?
Do you feel disconnected?

Sometimes it helps to try to zero in on what it is we really and truly are feeling.

Why do you feel like you don't belong?