Chronic Pain Support Group

Physicians and professionalsdefine pain as chronic if it lasts longer than three to six months and is persistent. It's distinct from acute pain that is a direct result of injury or trauma. This support group is dedicated to those suffering from chronic pain. Discuss treatments that have worked for you, find advice for your specific experience, and find support. You're not...

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When pain is so bad....

loralp
loralp

Hi all


It's been a long time since we was on here. I'm not sure why I was gone so long but I need to vent.


I'm having what I call "suicide pain". When pain is so bad death would be better 


I am NOT considering suicide I promise but sometimes it seems like it would be preferable to what's going on in my body. 


I was I a car wreck in 2002. Severe neck and back injuries. 


Right now the nerve pain is going into my head causing a massive migraine ( my eye are crossing just trying to type this).


I'm being treated for the head pain but my Dr is treating it like a traditional migraine/head pain instead of cervical pain that goes into the head. 


I am so tired of the pain. My husband is wonderful but even he admits sometimes he hears how much I hurt and it's like " so what else is new". How many times can he say "I'm sorry your hurting". 


Again, I am not suicidal. I'm just tired of it all and sometimes need to vent. 


I wish you all brightest blessings and pain free days or at least pain free moments.

billwfriend
billwfriend
try other doctor?
lighttheway
lighttheway
I’m sorry you’re suffering so much!! I have had chronic pain as well and have felt that way
hasty_05
hasty_05
I can relate to this. I am not suicidal but when my pain is at a 9 or 10 on the pain scale, I think this is why some people consider suicide. I am sorry you are having this horrible migraine pain. Its terrible.


I think you are not having good pain management but I also know just taking pain meds isn't going to do it for many of us.


Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be very helpful because it changes how we think. I believe getting through a lot of the pain is a mind game. When I am thinking that way, I pull out my CBT toolbox and go through what cognitive distortons am I having today. Research shows CBT is helpful with pain.


I wonder if a pain relief patch, like a lidocaine patch or a salanpas patch on your neck would help? Or something warming without capsaicin? You've probably tried a bunch of over the counter things already though. I find that massage helps me a lot, being gentle around my current pain place.


Someone once had this book recommendation and it really helps me when I am down. "When There is No Cure - How to Thrive While Living with the Pain and Suffering of Chronic Illness" by Craig Svensson. He has chronic pain.


I honestly try not to talk about my pain every day to my spouse. I don't want it to be such a drag on him. He knows and he understands and we recently decided I would no longer travel with him due to the pain. That makes me feel both depressed and glad not to have to struggle on these trips. I just can't do them any longer.
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