Chronic Pain Support Group

Physicians and professionalsdefine pain as chronic if it lasts longer than three to six months and is persistent. It's distinct from acute pain that is a direct result of injury or trauma. This support group is dedicated to those suffering from chronic pain. Discuss treatments that have worked for you, find advice for your specific experience, and find support. You're not...

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Boxerlover 09/15/2007

Tonight we went to dinner with friends/business associates and the whole night they did not ask us one thing about us. We heard about their kids grandkids,business,travels,hobbies and just about everything else. We tried many times to speak, but they talked right over us. Now tonight I really wasn't in any shape to go out, but I wanted to so my husband could socialize, and we haven't been out to dinner in over 2 months. It would have been nice if we could have talked too. It seems to be happening to us with everyone we go out with, we spend the whole time listening about them. Does this happen to you guys too? I had to be on my best behavior as my husband does business with him, but I swear one of these times I'm going to say something.

Melissa

deleted_user 09/15/2007

I'm sorry your dinner companions manipulated the whole evening's conversation. I hope you and your husband enjoyed your meals though.

deleted_user 09/15/2007

Some people are just like that, and even if they do let you get a word in edgewise they're not listening to you, they're thinking of what their going to say next-Ha!

Like Onedaysoon I too hope you at least got a good meal out of it!

deleted_user 09/15/2007

I think your hubby and you should have a dinner together. Then you could enjoy each other. Try to be patient with those rude people. Maybe one day they will allow you to converse.LOL

deleted_user 09/15/2007

Gotta hold your tongue if you need these people for business and income.

Yes, it would be nice to say something about yourselves and you lives, so try this. Hey that sounds wonderful, we did something similar and then go at it. Or bring pics of the family and outings, they have to look at them. This changes the topic to what you have to say.

Remember to omit the chronic pain. Outsiders don't understand unfortunately, plus talking about pain is a buzz kill at dinner.

Ouch

Boxerlover 09/15/2007

Thanks for the input, trust me, I held my tongue and I never talk about CP unless they are close friends. But yes, the food was great and next time I'll high-jack the conversation lol.

Melissa

andrews 09/16/2007

Don't think I'm going to be much good for you because my thoughts are that if these people are so one sided in what they think and talk about, well they're not my kind of people. Mine are mostly considerate enough to share the conversation.
Could this have been a one time thing with you friends? Just a thought.
Guess in the business world you have to do things like going to dinner with people who dominate the conversation. Do they dominate the business affairs too?
Best of luck to you,
david

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