Tabby that is horrible and of course you need to speak to a therapist about this. How old were you when this happened? I got the impression that you were adopted when you were very young.

Tabby
I strongly feel this is not the right place for these ongoing threads.
I will friend you, and am willing to try to support you until you lie again. At all.
Of course, it's only my opinion, but I think it would be in the best interests of both tabby and this site if everyone else wishing to continue contact did the same.
As I referred to elsewhere, have 'y'all heard of a D.N.R. order.

Yes this happened to me when I was 4 years old I got adopted when I was 5 And I have been having chronic pain ever since My adopted parents got me.

I do not doubt you were sexually abused Tabby....for something truly bad had to have happened to mess you up so bad and make you into such a Pathological lier.
I truly hope you get the help you need. Please be sure to tell your counselor your need to lie uncontrollably first....because until you can tell the truth you are not going to be able to get the proper help you need.
I truly wish you the best. I truly hope you get the help you so surely need.
Best wishes to you

Honesty is always the best policy - please remember that.

wow. i cant believe what you all wrote this girl,what kind of support is this, NEVER have i seen a support group soooooo cold,what if this really is her life, she does need help,and talking is what these forums are for, again WOW.

There is a sexual abuse survivors group here at DS. I bet they can help you more than we because they all understand what you are going thru.

Posting all this in chronic pain just seems like you are opening yourself to less understanding.
And you have to understand that some people come here and tell us that all our pain is because of abuse that we are not willing to ADMIT.
When many of us have physical ills that create pain, that is really a nasty thing to have someone say to us. It is called a trigger!
So you'd probably be better off sharing the abuse stories with other abuse survivors.

xxcrazy,,,, you obviously have not been around to watch all the drama that has been going on or you would know that this thread is not abusive but actually supportive.
I sincerely meant what I said in hopes that she gets the help she needs and my suggestion of telling the therapist about her lying is the first step in getting the help she needs.
You need to read all the past threads to understand what is going on.
What I see here so far on this thread is support.
Not mushy kissy kissy support but honest helpful support

I am sorry you suffered such abuse as a child. A few months back there was a big hoopla over the connection you are making and from what I researched heavily there was no conclusive proof of the connection, just a suggestion because more women suffer chronic pain then men. With the statistic of 1 in 4 women being abused at some point in their life, it is likely that some of those same women will also develop illnesses or be in accidents that cause chronic conditions. Co-occurring is not the same as connected.

The bottom line is yes, some with chronic pain were also abused and at the same time some with chronic pain develop cancer and yet others with chronic pain had "perfect" lives and no other illness besides the cause of their chronic pain. It just isn't a clear cause and effect. I believe that believing there is such a connection is a way of down grading chronic pain to a psychological issue and not needing to look for a true dx that could ultimately bring some relief.

I do agree that going to the group for abuse issues would be more helpful for you in that area because having cp does not mean we were all or even mostly abused so will not have the answers and true support you seek.

Thanks everyone for your understanding I am going to get a hold of a therapist to discuss my issues But I really do think that this could be whats causing my pain..

Good step in the right direction ... just make very sure that you tell the therapist only the truth because thats the only way you can sort things out; otherwise its a waste of time and there may be alot waitng for you in life! Good things...

I promise that I will tell them the truth If i want to get better. and put all of this behind me I have to tell them the truth no matter what.

Truth is always the best policy as you don't have to worry about keeping your stories straight as you do when you lie.

I learnt that the hard way back when I was about your age - my family were really upset about it - but I now tell the truth - and if that is not the best thing I say nothing.

Works for me!

I have read stories about some studies suggesting that abuse and CP go hand in hand and it might be or It could be a coincidence. That is not saying all people with CP were abused but it is saying that people who were abused have CP.

I really hope that you are on the path of telling the truth.

I think that is a good idea Tabby. Go for it and see if it helps, you never know. You just might me right in your situation. After all, you are the only one who knows what happened to you and you are the only one who knows how much chronic pain your body is in. Seek out the Therapist and do what you feel is right.