Kris I am so sorry for you and your family. We are always so proud to say that we got out eyes or nose from a family member, but rarely do people talk about the bad things they inherit. But we all do.

I guess the bright side is that you have the knowledge to do all that is possible for both of your girls. They are lucky to have your for their dad because I know you will fight for them.

I'm so sorry to hear this, Kris. Science is always growing. There is hope. You and you family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I know its hard to NOT place blame...but you can't do that. It will not help her or you. You didn't DO anything.

And to make my day that much better i just got back from my next drs appt and now i have to see the knee surgeon...

you gave her life!

you cannot blame yourself.

It's NOT your fault! Just as it wasn't your parents' fault! You had children- there's never a guarantee. And those lovely girls will be the best thing you ever did, sick or not.

Your knowledge will help them both, and really, as a parent I KNOW how you're feeling. They have something important- YOU as their daddy. Try and stay positive, and just keep on being Daddy. NONE of this is your fault.

Hang in there! Our kids, IMO, get us through the worst parts. Now you'll be there if they need you, as you would be no matter what. I'll say a prayer for them and for you, and try and have faith. There are so many possibilities, and one is that your daughter might not get any symptoms or pain. Just wait and see, but don't beat yourself up. You are a wonderful father!

It is not your fault. You didn't know.

Ditto! It is not your fault! You cannot blame yourself for something you did not know.

Kris, please do not continue on a guilt trip.

It is what it is. Nobody is at fault.

Your daughter is so blessed to have you for her Daddy.

Kris that must have been devastating for you to learn about your little one. You, however, have to be the one who sets the example on how to live life despite limitations. You have been an inspiration to so many people here on the boards, and now you get to share that experience, strength and hope with your daughters. Yes it sucks hearing the results. But you are not to blame and I know you will be the best father that they could possible ask for. They will have you to go to when they need help!! Keep on being an inspiration, your daughters see that!

Gentle hugs,
Jenna

Kris, I'm sorry and I know your really hurt by this, but you can't go through life blaming yourself. You will only make your daughter shoulder guilt that she doesn't deserve. She will see you feeling bad and guilty all the time and hurt and blame herself because you feel that way about her. Then she'll wonder if she wasn't around if you would feel better. Trust me, I have a pretty good grasp on things like that.

What you should do for her sake is to give her the happiest life possible and that means a normal life with a happy father. Teach her to be compassionate, loving and joyful no matter the situation.

Hugs and Love,
Dix

morning Kris, and i know how you feel, i gave my son asthma, and he uses an inhaler about 4 times a day, hes always been very sick with asmtha, but the good that came from having that, is that he says he cant ever smoke b/c he has asthma, and that it would kill him...hes right about that!!! if you were given a chose at their birth, you never would have passed down your conditions, im sure of that, so you being there for them is what your doing, and thats great..you can only be an of support to them now... your a great dad!!
~stinke~

Oh my gosh... I am so sorry that your daughters have or potentially have ED.

I can empathize with your feelings, my daughter is significantly impacted by challenges and mental health that are directly releated to her father. She also has pain and other issues that are related to me.

I feel so guilty but, I am very glad too because of what I have gone through and my education/experience.... I can use my knowledge to help her.

I am a stronger advocate, I can empathize and, I can be fully supportive of her because I have beent through it.

No one can tell you how to feel Kris or how to process your information. However, please please look at the fact that your little girl will have the strongest advocate and stregnth in YOU. She has someone who understands and someone who can help her through it.

My prayers and blessings to you my friend.

Kris, you did nothing to her, except bring her life, and love. My college roomate's husband has Ehlers-Danlos, and so does her daughter. Her husband has had surgery on his aorta, and is in good health. Her daugher is a teacher, is married and has 2 children. I'm not saying this is what will happen to you, I just wanted to give you a real example of a family living with E-D. And Dixe is right, you don't want to pass on guilt to your daughter.

You're a good person and a great father, Kris. Don't let guilt ruin that for yourself or your daughter.

Much love, admiration and hugs,

Theresa .

Chris, I'm sorry for this situation. You will grieve awhile, it's normal. Give yourself time. Once you adjust you will see you are a fine example, you have knowledge to help her.
Don't feel guilty, she is blessed that you are her Dad. Love is unconditional, I'm sending prayer and Angels to guide you. Every thing you have written, that I have seen, indicates a most loving strong, articulate man. It's natural to grieve upon rotten news. But your daughter will sence your emotions....careful with that. X L