if he didnt accept the pain he's not even worth it, 2 months is not very long for a relationship and least in a way he did the right thing.
when the man accepts the pain he's the right guy,the right guy will understand and help and not ask you to do things when your pain.
i would move on with life and start finding mr right.
good luck

I think your better off of him, sounds like he was a looser. You'll find someone else. I am sorry about that

Wow, it's a good thing you found out early. He certainly isn't someone you'd want to spend the rest of your life with. He has NO compassion or understanding at all. Be grateful he's gone, and look for someone who deserves you.

You'll find someone soon. Don't grieve for this loser. He's not worth it. God bless. Hugs, Lee

Glad you dodged a bullet! 2 month and you've never been to his house because he won't let you in (giant red flag--- he is married or living with someone), he doesn't believe you about the pain (giant red flag--- no compassion or faith in you), and he wants you to have a baby (giant red flag--- he wants to "own" you and tether you to him, no strings on his part, just yours.) I am so happy you are free of this @ss! Hooray! Hold out for someone who is worthy of you and no babies until after the wedding. You can do better!

hey hang in there i agree with everyone else to if he did not support you or beleive that you are in pain then you need to find someone that does support you and believes you my husband believes me about my pain and supports me and you will find someone out there that will

Sounds like he's a player, someone who wants to make women fall in love and want to please him. No respect for women at all. Now that you know what one looks, talks and acts like, you can avoid them. Good thing is they show themselves fairly early.

He's probably married and most of what he's told you is a lie. I would bet on it.

Hey, I'm sorry this happened to you! I know what it's like. I'm almost 24, I've been in pain for 9 years. One of my biggest fears is that no one would ever want me because of my physical condition. I can't tell you how many nights I've cried over this, or over a loser making me feel the way he made you feel. BUT, what I can say FOR SURE is people come in your life at certain times for certain reasons. He most likely came into your life to show you exactly what you DON'T WANT in a mate. I can't even call him a man; he's still a child trying to play adult games. Please be grateful you didn't waste more time on him. You already gave him more of your time and energy than he's worth! Lesson learned- he's exactly what you don't want.

As I said, one of my biggest fears was finding someone that would commit for the long haul despite my physical state, massive amount of medical debt, medication, and all the things we deal with. But like I said, this WAS one of my biggest fears. I kept following the path I'm meant to be on in life, learning from losers along the way, and about a month ago... POOF! A man comes into my life. He's completely un-phased by my physical state. In fact, he told me one night as I cried, that, "He met me the way I am now, so to him, I'm fully physically able." He has NEVER made me feel bad if I can't do something, or just can't get out of bed. He has actually made me feel BETTER about my physical condition. The first day he came to my apartment that I had just moved into, he started to unpack things I couldn't do on my own! He doesn't ask if he can do things for me, he just does it. He does ask all the time if there's anything he can help me with, how I'm feeling, and what he can do to help me feel better. HE DOESN'T JUST SPEW MEANINGLESS NONSENSE; HE BACKS UP HIS WORDS WITH ACTIONS. LOVE IS AN ACTION, NOT A WORD. This is what you want, this is what you deserve, and this is what will come to you when both you and your man are at the right points in your life. I believe that in order to find your soul mate, both of you need to be traveling along the life paths you're meant to be on... Then your paths will cross when the time is right.

You WILL find someone, but if you're wasting ANY time on losers, you might not be open and looking when the RIGHT man crosses your path. I had to confront loneliness before I found my man, become ok with being alone. The weird part is, the second I was ok being alone, he came into my life and now I'll never be alone again. Strange but awesome. YOU will have the same thing. Just please don't waste time on losers so your eyes will be wide open when the right man comes along. They're few and far between, which is amplified by the amount of losers in this world, but everyone has a soulmate and you will find yours when the time is right! Be grateful he showed his true colors. Don't let him come back and try to sweet talk you. You know what kind of person he is. Don't let his words sway you. Judge people solely on their ACTIONS not by their WORDS. You know you deserve better, so hold out until you find what you deserve. I know it seems like no one will ever love us, especially us young CP'ers, but I'm living proof that there's someone out there for all of us that will treat us exactly how we treat them!

I'm sorry if I rambled a bit, I just feel so strongly about this, and needed to let you know you're not alone in this, and the right person WILL come, one that won't make you feel bad, lie/play you, or try to control you. Check out Christian Carter, he's a relationship expert that shares a lot of good information for free. Yes, I'm a dork and I get the daily newsletter, hahaha! :-) Learn what it is you really want and deserve, then don't settle for anything less!

Much love and understanding,

Lisa

He didn't WANT understand your pain! Most he lies to you big time. One excuse after another, thin about that. You come first. take care of yourself.
In my marriage I had, he never wanted to be involved in my health. In turn that made it worst, not having someone that really cares.
He is just USING you, I wouldn't be surprise he tries to come back.
I agree he married or with someone else. It happen to my son years ago.
YOUR HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT.

People suck. Women & men alike!

Not all of them painRus. I'm sure you are a sweety. ;-)

I am married to the best man in the world and have been for 20 yrs. I wake up everyday asking myself how I got so lucky! Which is not to say that life is perfect, but lovebaby8 has learned an important lesson. I think she will apply it and make the next man live up to certain standards or he is gone!

I think everyone here agrees he's a D-bag, be glad he's gone. The right one will come along. I didn't find the right one till I stoped looking. There are decent people out there just be patient.

Dear love... l read many replies & no one (i think) suggested that U should forget that lil bit of shame/unworthiness U feel right now. All relationships are a 2 way street. There will be more men, & hopefully less pain in your life. l was married, (now a widower) but my marriage was more of a love affair. We both did small things for each other & made little Occasions (l replaced the windshield wipers) into a reason to have Champagne & strawberries, & make heart-shaped burgers
lol enuff rambling Peace to you
God Bless

I met my fiance almost 9 yrs ago, and ive had my pain for 11 yrs. when i first met brian i was terrified to tell him about my pain, infact i did a good job of hiding it from him for 6mths, cause we didnt see eachother all the time. When he told his friends they all questioned whether i was making it up or that he should be with me cause he was such an outgoing person. I laugh now, but at one point he broke up with me over the phone because of it, it lasted all of 30 sec, he realized there is more to me than this pain, and even tho there are days i know he gets frustrated because of my pain, i know he loves me and he supports me in anyway u can. You will find someone who will love u DESPITE the pain, otherwise hes not worth having

I am so sorry to hear you have to experience this. What ever the specific reasons of the choice this person made, I want you to know everyone reacts differently to these tough life problems. I have a few suggestions. One is to suggest that you and this person please go to the website

painreliefnetwork.org

Go to the "Media" section and watch the video, "The Chilling Effect," made by Siobhan Reynolds explaining about her experience with her husband who had chronic pain, her process of understanding it, and the experiences they had with the medical community.

PRN on The FOX Morning Show
Reason TV show on Chronic Pain and Government involvement.
Politics of Pain: Gulf War veteran James Fernandez discusses the problems hes had finding doctors who will treat his chronic pain adequately.
Alex Deluca: Pain Relief Network advocate Dr. DeLuca discusses the DEAs policy of treating doctors like drug pushers and the detrimental effect on pain patients.
PRN, CATO, on WABC TV (NY)
I Didnt Think it Was Real: Part I of III. PRN is proud to present a short video series outlining the struggle faced by millions of U.S. Citizens suffering from chronic pain. PRN President, Siobhan Reynolds, draws from her own personal experience as the wife of a chronic pain patient, and advocate for those unfairly and unconstitutionally persecuted by the DEA.
He Said Im not a Good Deal: Part II of III.
Being Unable to Help: Part III of III.


and ask them to watch the videos made by Dr. Alexander DeLuca

youTube: http://www.youtube.com/doctordeluca)

Brief bio and CV here: http://www.doctordeluca.com/Library/Personal/DelucaBio-current.htm

War on Doctors/Pain Crisis blog here:
http://www.doctordeluca.com/wordpress/

I am dissolving a 20 year relationship which began to fall apart with the beginning of my chronic pain in August of 2003. But it would have ended anyways because he is too much of a selfish person for me to tolerate, not to mention he hides from dealing with his own issues behind my chronic pain, among others. I do believe some people who become educated about what we experience in actual pain and then all the other issues chronic pain brings with it to our lives, become again loving and compassionate and the bonding in relationship continues from there.............. but without an understanding of it..... they are frightened just as we are........... because of the issues not being addressed................................ which our chronic pain brings to their lives.
Our pain clinics are fighting a battle just to physically medicate our bodies and wasting precious resources which should be put to better use for counseling our families and friends and employers and the general public about this disease. It is a disease, caused by many different physical illnesses and it is misdiagnosed & under-treated more often than not.
However............. I believe we need to have supportive relationships in our (chronic pain patients) lives. Not wishing to be telling you what to do. All I say is from my own research and experiences with my 8-9 year battle with my own C.P.
I only wish to empower you and suggest what I have found to help me be well (er) in my own daily life.

In Love, Light, Truth, & Service,
'Stubborn' TerrieAnn

mabey this is not the most helpful thing to hear but if he cannot accept the pain you are in and be understanding than it is definetly for the best that you are not with him! I understand where you are coming from being young and in so much pain! I am married and have 3 kids and it is very difficult taking care of children when you are in pain! and as far as my relationship, my husband said to me that when he said his vows he meant them, especially the part...in sickness and in health... and that means a lot because the things that I used to be able to do, it is all on him now! he has to pick up my slack! If your boyfriend is talking about kids after only 2 months, he probably doesnt know how much work a child really is! You need to find somebody who loves you just the way you are and dont put a rush on having children if you dont feel you are ready at this point! Good luck, break ups are always hard but honestly you need to just keep reminding yourself that it is for the better!