Kitty dodge,

Is that like Miss Kitty in Gunsmoke?
:-)
I am sorry about your pain, and so glad you have your husband.
I know it hurts to have your mom treat you like that. I'm really sorry you feel like hiding.
Having emotional pain on top of physical pain sometimes is just one too many.
I hope you can put it into perspective somehow and just realize that having a loving and supportive husband is enough.
I'm not diminishing your feelings just trying to point the light on what is good in your life right now.

Nope, I think it hurts more when it comes from family. Most of mine turned thier backs long ago. Screw em. I feel closer to some of the people here than most of my family. I have my wife and kids and my folks and I suppose that's all I need as far as family goes.
Sorry your having a rough time.

sorry your having a rough time.
sometimes family members dont understand that stress causes more pain for us and we like everything to be calm.
hope things get better for you.

Emotional pain and depression comes with our physical pain and when someone that is very close to us makes us feel wrong or gets angry at us for our own pain, that hurts worse than the physical; I agree.
I do hope you know that having a loving husband is a good thing as I've found if I try to only count the good and let it outweigh the bad, it truly makes me feel better because I can't force anyone to understand what I go through.
Best wishes,
Rhonda

I think the two work together to make us feel bad. My sisters last attack left me in pain so severe I could not eat or move for three weeks. I could not even type.

Others just don't understand how important it is to have people around who lift your spirits.

I am so sorry. Hang in there. We all care about you. I am certain that you were trying to help.

Hi,
I am sorry for all you are going through. To tell you the truth I was shocked when I read what your mom said to you, moms should love unconditionally, I guess the old saying there should be a test before someone can have children applies here.

What you lack in a mother it sounds like you made up in the hubby department and that is the way it should be when life does not balance. Keep the love in your heart it can be learned if not inherited

I am sorry you have had to deal with this. It is harder when it comes from a parent, because your parents are supposed to love you, protect you, and be there for you no matter what. While I have never been close to my mom, I am/was very close to my dad, but a month or so ago while I was talking to my dad, He brought up when we were going to travel to see him, I live in SC and he lives in MI. When I told him that I wasn't sure as traveling long distances is getting to be too much for me anymore. I was shocked to realize by his response that he never really understood my condition, he assumed that I was "better" which made me realize that he never really listened to me when I had told him about it.

That lack of understanding hurt, probably as much as your mom telling you what she did. It hurts, It hurts a lot. But try to put it out of your mind, even though she is your mom, she is human and you can't change her, you can only concentrate on yourself.

Again, I am sorry you have had to go through this.