With your symptoms and those orders from the ER, you shouldn't be on hold! It might be time to go back to the ER and tell them what's going on. Maybe they would even call your doc for you or at least put the orders in writing so you can show your doc.

All the added stress will make anything hurt worse, but this isn't being caused by the stress!

Please take care of yourself...
Cherry

What cherry said is great advice. Why are they making you wait? If the doctor is booked find another doctor. GI bleeding is generally for a surgeon to deal with or at least a specialist. I'd call the hospital and ask for their help.

As to your mom's estate...well I understand the feelings but there is nothing you can do about the will. As executor you are legally bound to follow the terms so just do it. Hire a lawyer and let him take over. If your sister and brother are causing problems now it will only get worse and you are better off getting professional help right from the start. That way you can honestly say the lawyer is dealing with it and you can take care of you.

I totally agree with the above posters and let me add this..

I have severe crohns disease (along with other health issues) and one of the VERY important things my GI doctor says is IF you see black stool call ASAP and get in here. That can be an indication of internal bleeding. I had to go through away from my home town to a larger city to get the proper care. It was worth it.

If I were you I would push as hard as you need to to get to a GI doctor that is a good one.

Hugs,
Rach

Loral,

Hi hun. I am sorry you lost your mother on February 27th. I am not surprised by you saying that you were expecting it and dealt with it in your own way. She was sick a long time and for many when their mom or dad has been sick a long time it is a blessing when they finally go. Your family members need to leave you alone and let you deal with it your own way. I am sorry you are going through this on top of having problems with upper GI bleeding. This is a serious problem that shouldn't be ignored. Do you have the name of a specialist to see? You mentioned several phonecalls but who are you calling? I am concerned about you. If you continue to have black tarry stools you will become anemic and require immediate intervention at some point. It is vital you see a GI specialist if at all possible before the weekend. If worse comes to worse you can always go back to the ER. As far as the pills go...please be careful. Ihavelost close friends this way and believe me it is easy to do so please go get help for your depression. I care about what happens to you sweetheart. I will keep you in my prayers and I mean that. I am going to spend time tonight prayingfor you and your situation. Love and hugs to you!!!

so, Take 2! i was almost finished posting and my comp turned off! the universe is against me today! so, i 1st called my Dr and it took a week but i got in. he said he was refering me to a specialist and that if i had not heard anything within 3 days call him back. so 3 days later no word, i called his office. the friggin receptionist would not take the message!!!! she just kept saying ' the referal was done, call them! so i did. they are waiting.....? i dont know for what! so i called my Dr back and demanded to speak to his nurse. she did take the message and profusley apologized for the receptionist. so....hurry up and wait. i feel like everyone is just blowing me off! ( Drs etc, never you guys!) so i justkeep calling them and making a pain of myself hoping they will get me in if for nothing else to shut me up! i've lost 20 pounds in the last few months and i'm afraid to eat cause it makes me sick. i do force myself to eat, fruit, yougurt, skinless chicken, things like that. instant breakfasts are my friend! to top it all off, my brother and sister are coming tomorrow to go through Moms house. yeeeaaa no stress there! especially since my sister hates me with passion and we do not speak unless abosutely necessary. can i just shoot myself now? just kidding, honestly!

this is a bad day for me with personal issues; i have a lot of thoughts about what you are going through, both physically and emotionally, but im not really coherent enough right now to get it all down, so i will write more as soon as i can.

i do have a suggestion i want to share with you: the way you dr, nurse, and receptionist have been treating you is deplorable. i would go over their heads. everyone has to report to someone higher up the chain. find out who that is- if your dr is part of a group practice, the practice might have somene who oversees the practice. if he is affiliated with the hospital, there may be a hospital administrator who oversees him. if he is completely independent, he is still accountable to the licensing board. find out who the "higher up" is, contact them, and tell them what is going on. 1st of all, hopefully this person is ethical and caring. 2nd, even if he or she is not a caring person, s/he will still be worried about the action you could take against them due to this drs negligence.

i also agree that as you are so ill and are suffering, going to the ER is really important. mainly of course because you need treatment asap, but an added benefit is that when you do report the dr, if you tell the person you ended up in the ER due to his negligence, that bolsters your position.

i know i havent touched upon your emotions during this time; i will when im able, but i want you to know how sorry i am for your loss and what you are going through with your famiy... i am here for you- we all are- and i support you and hope you feel better in all ways... huge gentle hugs to you; you are in my thoughts. keep us updated honey.

Thank you all so much for your kind words, thoughts, advise, and prayers. It has helped more than you can imagine! I will definitely take your advise and go in again. I did finally get through to my Dr, he was pissed the receptionist blew me off! He is going to call the specialist and get me in faster. Here's hoping! Side note, one thing I love about this site/forum is that I know when I am in need you are all there for me! Other forums on DS are not as good. There are time I will post and NO ONE answers! Its crazy! So, thank you all for your support. I'm not on as much lately but when I am I hope I can return the support to you all. Bless you and wishing you pain free days

I would go back to the ER and let them know about the runaround your getting at your Dr.'s office and that you haven't gotten a referral to the GI doc yet. Ask them if they can send you directly to a GI Dr. or give you a referral to one. As for all the pills your taking, you know that's not safe, and pills are hard on the stomach and GI system in general. All the stress your going through with your sibs, missing your mom, having to deal with all the financial stuff....all these things will kick up GI problems, but as Cherry said they didn't cause the problem it was there.....and GI bleeding can go from being a manageable situation that can be fixed to an emergent situation that is completely out of your control rather quickly.

If your Dr. won't get you the help you need, then ask the ER Docs to help you get what you need, before this turns worse and into an emergent situation.

I'm sorry for your loss and I hope life calms down for you, so that you can focus on taking care of you.

Kat