Chronic Pain Support Group
Physicians and professionalsdefine pain as chronic if it lasts longer than three to six months and is persistent. It's distinct from acute pain that is a direct result of injury or trauma. This support group is dedicated to those suffering from chronic pain. Discuss treatments that have worked for you, find advice for your specific experience, and find support. You're not...
I am the type of person that will do anything for everyone no questions asked or worrying about myself. very bad quality right now. I baby sat my neice for my mother in law last night. she does foster care that is why she is my neice instead of sis. but anyways my neice and I had a pretty good night we made dinner and wathched some movies. My mother in law was supposed to be back at 830 900pm last night wasnt home until 11. I was having so much pain and feeling so sick. Today is not even better. I ran out of my breakthrough meds and am using my fentanyl even though it keeps making me have the diareah sorry cannot spell that word. lol but when I called my mother in law and told I cannot babysit today I get yelled at. how messed up is that. I told her I was feeling awful and appearantly it is my fault.yep all mine and they kepe saying I need to sue the dr who caused the neuropathy. just a bad day. I hope the fentanyl kicks in soon now i have lidoderm patches all around my tummy, back, and hips. nothing I can do fofr my legs or feet but wear extr socks. just a bad day I wanted to cry earlier but it isnt going to help anything. I slept in really late today because I had no sleep last night and was blamed and yelled at for that too. my house is a disaster but my hubby hadto go to the gym and help a friend out he wants it clean or picked up when he gets home. im sorry this is long im just i want it to get better. Idont mind at all helping people out and i love spending time with my neice who happy and sad to say is being adopted on the 21st. I will never see her again or have contact until she is 18.
so im sorry im ranting i want that light at the end of thid long and painful tunnel. there is some good news though knitting does keep my mind off of the pain somewhat and I did finish my first scarf and have signed up for more classes. one is a ruffled scarf the other is some wristwarmers. so woohoo. im not sure what i will do for school this semester i really cannot afford it and i need to go back to work but im just not sure how. i get so tired and in so much pain. im a substitute in the elementry levels but im just scared of the pain because i cannot take my meds there. and what if soemthing was to happen like I fall? i fell down the stairs twice over christmas vacation at my dads. my sister thought is was soooo funny. so I will talk to my boss about just doing head start they dont need subs as much but it is only 4 hours. so im going to try to lay down my cat is attacking the screen and me hugs to all and i hope this weekend can be aspain free as possible for all of us.
before i go any ideas for the chas chas with the fentanyl does it go away?
so im sorry im ranting i want that light at the end of thid long and painful tunnel. there is some good news though knitting does keep my mind off of the pain somewhat and I did finish my first scarf and have signed up for more classes. one is a ruffled scarf the other is some wristwarmers. so woohoo. im not sure what i will do for school this semester i really cannot afford it and i need to go back to work but im just not sure how. i get so tired and in so much pain. im a substitute in the elementry levels but im just scared of the pain because i cannot take my meds there. and what if soemthing was to happen like I fall? i fell down the stairs twice over christmas vacation at my dads. my sister thought is was soooo funny. so I will talk to my boss about just doing head start they dont need subs as much but it is only 4 hours. so im going to try to lay down my cat is attacking the screen and me hugs to all and i hope this weekend can be aspain free as possible for all of us.
before i go any ideas for the chas chas with the fentanyl does it go away?
With the chronic pain i have learnt to say no when the pain gets bad and i cant go to things or do things.
My family is good and have learnt about chronic pain as well.
Stress will make your pain worse.
My kids have learnt as well about pain and things i can do and dont get upset when i say no to things when i'm not to it.
Im just going to ditto what Krissy said because thats exactly it...IF they cant repect you and what you are dealing with then sccccaarrrreeewww ummmm ... they arent on time but yet get po'd because you cant do what they want? Yeah riiiggghhttt time to say ...................123 NOOOOO~~
*Now... I have to learn to practice what I preach because I have a hard time saying NO myself ...so Im right there with ya....
*I really hope things get better for you!
I'm really sorry you're having a rough time right now, and I hope that fentanyl has kicked in to give you some major relief. I don't know anything about fentanyl or any diarrhea that it causes, but perhaps adding a fiber supplement to your diet (and eating some high-fiber foods) would help counteract that side effect. You don't want to start burning your bum-hole raw with diarrhea, that's for sure.
It sounds as if your family treats you (1) badly and (2) as a child. Your sister thought it was funny that you fell down the stairs twice? I'm sorry, maybe you guys have a different kind of humor, but that demonstrates cruelty and ignorance about your condition. Also, your mother in law "yelled at" you? Are you a 12 year old who needs to babysit to get her allowance? You got yelled at for sleeping in? Who can yell at you in your own house? Also, your husband wants the place picked up when he gets back? Or else what? You'll get a spanking?
Listen, I care about what happens to you, and you sound really scared and frankly, emotionally abused. What would happen if you did as Krissy suggested and was completely up front with your husband and the rest of your family about your limits? Are you willing to do this? Would it make you scared or feel guilty? Are you scared about what your husband or family might do? What do you think would happen? Letting everyone in on your limits sounds like precisely what you NEED to do to avoid going nuts and have any sort of enjoyment! I know you say that you'd do anything for anyone, so please consider doing this for yourself!
I'm here if you want to talk about this....
With lots of caring,
Orchid
I would give advice but i am right with you on this, so i can only say you are not alone.
Its hard and people don't care about anything but themselves and when we want to care about ourselves they are pissed off about it.
Not fair I know---- you are doing the right thing about saying you cant babysit i need a set of what you have so i can say no also LOL
take care--- and brush it off what your mother in law thinks she wants the foster children so she should take care of them.
The fentynyl patch must be worn continuously not just when you start feeling horrible. Nothing can help at that point. You have to stay ahead of the pain. If you need to sub on a regular basis, you might want to try the special ed classes. The majority of them have an assistant who knows how to run the class and you would just help out. That way you could sit and help one student at a time, and get up and walk around when you needed to.
Maybe you need to take this semester off and start looking at your options. #1. Take care of yourself, #2. Do I need to stay in a marriage where I am not appreciated and bullied on a daily basis?, #3. What do I need to do in order to say "no" to people who take advantage of me?
Everyone has given you some good suggestions, but in the final analysis, you have to start making some changes in your life. The stress is killing you.