hi, i kind of have an idea how you feel. i have also thought many times about "checking out" as well. Dont. There are many options available. No cure unfortunately but many treatments and medications can make u much more comfortable then what you are right now, you just need to find the right ones. Your mother does not understand, as she obviously is not suffering like you are. If you have tried time and time again to explain it to her and she still doest grasp the concept, you must learn to ignore the coments like i have. trust me, i love my family dearly but some of them are clueless. the other day mt aunt was telling me to drink honey and vinager because i was hobbling around the house in mysery LOL ! the funniest thing about it was that i accually DO drink honey and vinager, for other health reasons, on a daily basis. It doesnt help the pain though, obviously.It is frustrating when others do not understand, and seem like they dont care, or make comments to the affect that you are being a wuss, ect... u must learn to pay them no mind untill they learn to atleast be a little more supportive. I have laid in bed crying in pain before and overheard people saying "oh, shes just depressed" and kind of bs. So i know where you are comming from on that end atleast. I dont know anything about your situation. Are you getting any help? do you have a good Dr ? If not maybe you should find a different one. Have you been to a pain management Dr? Do you have any kind of insurance at all? There are all kinds of options for you, Checking out is not one you need to consider, life can be beautiful, i promise. Take care of yourself. Message me if you need to talk.

So sorry, and I know all about pain. Checking out isnt the answer no matter what you think.I felt the same way b4.Life isnt fair but it still is life.I lost both of my kids and wife had cancer and as for me, my body is just tore up from neck to feet and hand to hand.I dont get pain free days ever.But I do agree with prisoner there are many options and you need to finded a good pain management Dr.They will give you the most help and you may not get pain free days as well but they can really help take the edge of a lot of it. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS

Loryn...

So sorry to hear of your pain. I see you're in Oregon. So am I. I was DX with fibro several years ago and got psoriasis at the same time and now have some sort of joint/ tendon/connective tissue autoimmune disorder. There seems to be a lot of fibro and autoimmune problems around here. I never had these problems until I moved up here.

My mother also suffered from the same problems, so I guess where I live may be just a coincidence and this is just hereditary. I watched my mother go from healthy to crippled with pain, and I assure you, she was not doing it with a smile.

I'm up writing this right now in the middle of the night because I was trying to sleep, but I'm in so much pain that sleep was impossible.

I've been looking for a good doctor for fibro/pain/autoimmune around the Portland area for the past couple years. No luck so far. The rheumatologist that diagnosed me doesn't treat fibro, and just told me to take some Naproxen and exercise. Yeah, right.

You can have fibro without having an auto immune disorder. But I read an article that said many times people are diagnosed with fibo and they also have an underlying autoimmune disease that actually caused the nerve damage that caused the fibro. The article said that this is particularly true with Lupus. Studies showed the Lupus always came first and then fibro, so yes I do think they are connected. After I developed psoriasis, the dermatologist gave me topical steroids and when I use them, it really eases the fibro symptoms. This leads me and the doctor to conclude that either the psoriasis is causing wide spread inflammation in my tissues which puts pressure on the nerves and causes the muscle pain of fibro or I have another as yet undiagnosed autoimmune disease.

Feeling angry at this terrible disease is normal. Feeling sorry for yourself is normal. Take care and please feel free to write to me if you want to talk.

Yes, fibro often imitates other diagnoses and women especially are apt to be misdiagnosed. My "fibro" responded remarkably well to vitamin D + flax oil, because it was later discovered I had a such a large deficiency, that my levels were barely detectable. I suffered in unnecessary pain for years. I agree that a decent pain management doctor is imperative. I have other issues, DDD, DJD, OA. Most docs don't treat fibro because they read these ridiculous studies that say pain meds don't help. I take morphine and hydrocodone and they are a God-send! I know what you mean about wanting to check out and it scares me to hear you so desperate. I hope you get the help you need. Go to a good rheumy to differentiate whether or not you have RA or anything else. Then find a good pain management specialist and get treated for anything but fibro. The 3 drugs Rx'd for that, Lyrica, Cymbalta, or Savella, may help some, but they only made me sick and crappy feeling. Everyone is different though, so do what works for you. Please keep coming to DS for support though, because there is a solution!

Hi. Please hang in there. I know the pain can be overwhelming and lack of support from family can add to the frustration. We are all here for each other. We know what its like to be in pain, to feel helpless, to be angry because we can't do what we used to and to also be told to suck it up and put a smile on our face and deal with it. I am in Oregon too. There are good drs. in Portland if you are close. OHSU has an amazing pain care program. Hugs to you loryn.

Hi,
It sounds to me that checking out your current Doctor or firing your current Doctor might be a better idea..... If you are in so much pain that you are thinking the way that you are, it means that your pain is not been treated appropriatley and that you need to find a good pain management Doctor that is going to solve this issue for you.
A lot of us here are in chronic and/or intractable pain, but most of us have Doc's that treat our pain and help us with our pain levels, if this is not what's happening with you, is time to change it!

It took me 6 different Doc's to find my current pain management Doc. I never gave up, I knew that there was going to be the right fit and the right Doc for me out there, and I did find it, so now is your turn! Ask your PCP to give you a referral to a good PM Doctor in your area, and if you don't need a referral, check out this website and see if you can find a pain Doctor that can help. The website is:
www.doctorsforpain.com. Good luck to you and I hope that you can find good pain relief soon!
Hugs,