Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Support Group
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS) describes a sense of exhaustion and post-exertion malaise, even when you have gotten enough rest and sleep. The disease is characterized by six months of incapacitating fatigue experienced as profound exhaustion and extremely poor stamina, and problems with concentration and short-term memory. The cause is unknown, but it is a...
So I finally ended a 6 month relationship with a young man I met on the internet who from the very second date I had RED FLAGS that he would NEVER be friendly to me and that he just wanted sex, when he wanted it, with the context that it was a healthy relationship, b/c we'd go on nice dates Sometmies, and he'd ask how I was doing often by text message. BUT when I told him how I was honestly doing, since I have fibro and fatigue (Along with irritable bowel) he TSKED me, or SIGHED EXASPERATED>
so here I am admitting is the first step. I have a problem. I committed my time and energy to making a relationship work with a verbal abuser. Can Anything help me? If it can, I will do it.
I am not perfect by any means. But my friends and acquaintances and coworkers and strangers could clearly see what I was denying, I was being treated the way no human being deserved to be treated in a relationship. maybe in a fuck buddy situation. but I cared about him. and I . . . can't go on writing so thats all.
so here I am admitting is the first step. I have a problem. I committed my time and energy to making a relationship work with a verbal abuser. Can Anything help me? If it can, I will do it.
I am not perfect by any means. But my friends and acquaintances and coworkers and strangers could clearly see what I was denying, I was being treated the way no human being deserved to be treated in a relationship. maybe in a fuck buddy situation. but I cared about him. and I . . . can't go on writing so thats all.
Yes, men have this problem, too, we just don't like to admit it. There are lots of female abusers out there waiting like spiders for nice guys to come along.
It is a big problem for a lot of people, you are not alone.
i make clear boundaries now and have dropped some friends who only take and don't give. it's hard being isolated but less of a stressor.
remember, don't blame or guilt yourself, it won't make you feel any better. learning from these jerks will give you an arsenal to protect you against future troublemakers.
hugs and best wishes for you!
It's painful, I also still care about the people who abused me, but I agree being alone is better than being hurt all the time. That is especially true when you are chronically ill, you have to think of yourself first. If it means being alone, then so be it.
xoxoxo
I remember my sister and her husband treated my husband and me very badly during the time she was battling cancer. She called me on the phone one day and said her husband didn't want me around them anymore. I was cooking, cleaning and taking care of her kids for her. In other words I was bending over backwards for her and her husband sometime neglecting my family at the same time. When she said this to me I replied, you have cancer, you need to take care of yourself and your family. Don't worry about me and my feelings just do what you have to do to get well. I told her I'm secure and not to worry about me or my feelings." From that point on our relationship changed and I know it changed her as well. The thing is we have a relationship but it does not consume me in any way shape or form. She doesn't have any power over me at all. It's a good feeling. I moved on from my need to be abused in that way and now no other person will abuse me like that again because I processed that experience in a healthy way.
Sue