Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Support Group
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS) describes a sense of exhaustion and post-exertion malaise, even when you have gotten enough rest and sleep. The disease is characterized by six months of incapacitating fatigue experienced as profound exhaustion and extremely poor stamina, and problems with concentration and short-term memory. The cause is unknown, but it is a...
I was working on our budget. I'm trying a new one that is helping me understand even more powerfully that we are not in good shape. period. I keep thinking we need to try to sell our house, again (we've tried twice in the 10 years we've lived here - I've been sick for 11 years). I'm so tired of being in debt. Every time I feel like we make a dent in what we owe something else comes up.
I'm sure many of you can relate.
When it comes to decisions I rely on common sense and try to understand my "feelings" about different things. In other words, I want to feel at peace that what I've decided is the right thing. It's hard to rely on my feelings these days. It's hard to trust my judgment when I feel overwhelmed by this illness.
We have to get a certain amount from our house to make it worth selling and moving, etc. I am a control freak. I want to know the outcome. I at least want to feel like what I'm doing is somehow going to work out.
To add more uncertainty to my life isn't fun, to say the least. This illness is enough uncertainty, isn't it?
Right now I'm tired of feeling like I can't control this illness or other things in my life because of this illness. Today I'm tired of trying to accept my limitations.
I'm tired of being stuck in this moment. I can't see the future. If I try to go there I remind myself to pull back because it will upset me to feel so much uncertainty.
Thanks for staying with me here because I know my thoughts sound a bit flighty. I guess my main question is this: How do you deal with financial uncertainty?
I'm sure many of you can relate.
When it comes to decisions I rely on common sense and try to understand my "feelings" about different things. In other words, I want to feel at peace that what I've decided is the right thing. It's hard to rely on my feelings these days. It's hard to trust my judgment when I feel overwhelmed by this illness.
We have to get a certain amount from our house to make it worth selling and moving, etc. I am a control freak. I want to know the outcome. I at least want to feel like what I'm doing is somehow going to work out.
To add more uncertainty to my life isn't fun, to say the least. This illness is enough uncertainty, isn't it?
Right now I'm tired of feeling like I can't control this illness or other things in my life because of this illness. Today I'm tired of trying to accept my limitations.
I'm tired of being stuck in this moment. I can't see the future. If I try to go there I remind myself to pull back because it will upset me to feel so much uncertainty.
Thanks for staying with me here because I know my thoughts sound a bit flighty. I guess my main question is this: How do you deal with financial uncertainty?
But I know its an illusion...if anything goes wrong seriously like a broken bone, I am in deep trouble. My budget is absurdly tight and there is just no leeway for emergencies...that drives me crazy to think about.
It's all this #$@& disease...I can't think clearly, I have no stamina to sustain any kind of work for long...so I am totally dependent on the little bit of retirement income I have. I'm sure there are a lot of us in the same boat.
I wish all of you who are struggling the very best...let's hope we all manage to stay afloat somehow.
I'm so sorry that you're struggling and having to consider moving. I'm sorry I don't have any answers for you! It sounds like you are doing everything you can to try and mange your money the best you can, and you can't control it, so please try not to worry. I know it's hard. I've found that taking time out to do deep breathing 3 times a day helps me to feel more relaxed.
A couple of practical things, if you are going to sell your house, and if it looks anything like mine (!) it might be a good idea to spend a wee bit of money making it look its very best to tempt buyers into spending more. Local house sellers (brainfog!) will give you an idea of what you're house would sell for before you jump in.
If you moved to a smaller house, would it reduce your monthly mortgage/rent?
It's mostly about not looking too far into the future and doing what I can do now with what I have. It's just frightening if I look too far ahead with my critical analysis and see how unprepared we are for emergencies and retirement, etc.
Somehow we get by.
I've never been a money person. Meaning, I just don't care about fancy stuff and money is numbers on paper. It's just getting the numbers to play out the way I need them to work for me.
I just need to try harder to stick to my budget, hope there are no emergencies EVER, and not think too far ahead. Easy breezy. haha
That's a good line, Richie.