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LoddyAoddylo 04/26/2019

I live in a personal care home because I have a severe mental illness (it's controlled by medication). The home is owned by a young couple, with a staff of five and sixteen of us residents. One member of the staff has me almost paralyzed by fear. She humiliated me once, and though she asked for forgiveness, I can't seem to forget about it. And I know that my Lord Jesus suffered the ultimate humiliation by dying naked on a cross in front of a bunch of cruel, sneering people. I've already decided that if I have to live in fear because of this woman, I'll do it. I've begged the Lord to help me with this. I've forgiven Melanie (not her real name) over and over, but she continues to make remarks that hurt me. I dread the days when she works. Please pray that I'll forgive her once and for all, and that the Lord will give me love for her and take my fear away. I really don't think she means to hurt me. And I know that the owner of the home will take Melanie's side if I tell her something is wrong. Help me Lord.

MrsOtto 04/27/2019

Hi
No one should feel uncomfortable in their home when outsiders come in to help.
Please let her boss know or tell the manager. Ask other roommates if they've had the same experience and please complain until she is removed.
You have forgiven her, that is great but that does not mean you need to forget.
If melanie had a problem she needs to be corrected, you live there and you are actually her boss!
If your manager listens and doesn't do anything, go to her boss, and go to the state health dept for help then contact your local news station.
Keep speaking out until someone hears you!
May God bless you for taking action as you are helping others as yourself!
Keep us updated, perhaps we can help further too!

MarleneJ 04/27/2019

Yes, please report her. And if the management won't listen, then go to the media, or, even phone the police. While she may not be arrested, it might scare her.

I will be praying for you.

"Heavenly Father, I pray for Loddy that you would comfort her..Take away her fear, and make this person stop intimidating her. . In Jesus name I pray, Amen!"

RJW 04/27/2019

Thank you for sharing. You are in my prayers. It is a difficult situation, because of the thought of reporting her might feel like attacking her. Under different circumstances, it might just be a case of Forgive and Forget, but sadly she isn't doing her job, and worse, by breaking her honored duty as a caregiver. She is doing more then insults, as it is abuse. Abuse should be reported, as it not only stops it from happening to you, but also others. It is a difficult thing, but pray to The Lord, and He will show you His Way. Stopping the abuse is important, and can always still forgive her. I hope this made sense. Thank you and God Bless.

smil77 04/27/2019

I am sorry Loddy .
I am sure you do not deserve this .
Maybe you are afraid of reporting her for fear of retaliation .Maybe you can report her anonymously .

You are in my prayers & God is with you .
Blessings.

"He works ALL things together for good to those who love him."

LoddyAoddylo 04/27/2019

Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. I'm surprised that you are all unanimous about my reporting her. I had to do that once before, and it turned out that almost all of my roommates had stories of abuse by the woman. Now, no one even talks about her anymore.

MarleneJ 04/27/2019

Abuse is never acceptable in any situation, but especially not when someone is supposed to be there, specifically to help you.

shadowlady 04/27/2019

I'm so sorry, Loddy. I know the thought of reporting her probably devastates you, but ask God for strength, as we all pray for you. This woman definitely needs to be stopped. God bless. You're in my prayers.

urbangardener 04/28/2019

Please talk to your psychiatrist about this fear. It could be your mental illness or it could be your self protection. You don't say what the humiliation was, but you did say the worker asked for forgiveness. But now you are afraid. If this worker has stopped doing whatever humiliated you and has been kind ever since, then this might be a symptom of a mental illness needing different medication or more help. No shame in that. If you feel this is ongoing, with this worker doing mean and abusive things to you every day she works, that is different. If you are in the USA, and this is a long term care facility, each state has a long term care ombudsman. They have to post the sign about this service in the lobby or where residents can see it. You can also call Adult Protective Services in your state. I truly don't see that forgiveness is the answer here. If you are being abused, forgiving the abuser is not going to stop the abuse.

smil77 04/28/2019

To have a forgiving spirit as you do is WONDERFUL in the eyes of Jesus Christ .
Loddy,,I believe forgiveness is for our benefit. The other person’s behavior may never change. It's up to God—not us—to change others. Our responsibility is to be set free from the pressure and weight of an unforgiving attitude. Whatever our pain or situation, we cannot afford to hold on to an unforgiving spirit. We must get involved in the process of releasing others from the debts we feel they owe us. If we keep our eyes on the One who forgave us, it will be a liberating force like nothing we've ever experienced.

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