CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
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Our ES, his wife and 4-yr old daughter came yesterday, stayed for supper and were here about 4 hours. It was a nice visit. When my DH and ES went downstairs it gave me and DIL a chance to visit. I was careful. She wants no reconnection with her bio mom. Her version of her first 15 years and birth mom's version are a bit different and since I wasn't there, I don't know what is real and what is fabricated. Maybe a little of both on both sides. I suggested she visit with her and see if there is any resolve but that would be her decision.
She said that every year when I would send my ES a b'day card, she would suggest that he call us but he wouldn't.
I do believe the estrangement was part our son and part her. Our son wanted to please her and when I didn't jump to all of their demands and lack of spending time with us because it was all about her family, I bauked. I believe they thought that the meaner they would treat me, the more apt I would be to give them the $$ they wanted. They were young and immature.
Our little GD is adorable. She is 4, weighs only 30# and is a beautiful mix of them both. I do feel bad that our son has not continued his walk with Jesus. When I brought out some things for her to play with and create a picture, she thought the cross was a letter "T". I didn't say anything; too soon. I will pray that our son returns to Christ and brings his family along.
When they left, our son hugged me and said he would like DH and me to come to their home for dinner in a couple of weeks. He said he loves us and I believe him. I did notice that it was apparent to him when we talked about other family members, that he has missed 7 years that he will never get back. New babies born to his cousins, etc.
God is definitely working in this and I am also learning a lot about waiting on Him, walking with Him, and thanking Him for all his blessings. Now prayers are for my DH's healing, both from the femur surgery and from the cancer.
She said that every year when I would send my ES a b'day card, she would suggest that he call us but he wouldn't.
I do believe the estrangement was part our son and part her. Our son wanted to please her and when I didn't jump to all of their demands and lack of spending time with us because it was all about her family, I bauked. I believe they thought that the meaner they would treat me, the more apt I would be to give them the $$ they wanted. They were young and immature.
Our little GD is adorable. She is 4, weighs only 30# and is a beautiful mix of them both. I do feel bad that our son has not continued his walk with Jesus. When I brought out some things for her to play with and create a picture, she thought the cross was a letter "T". I didn't say anything; too soon. I will pray that our son returns to Christ and brings his family along.
When they left, our son hugged me and said he would like DH and me to come to their home for dinner in a couple of weeks. He said he loves us and I believe him. I did notice that it was apparent to him when we talked about other family members, that he has missed 7 years that he will never get back. New babies born to his cousins, etc.
God is definitely working in this and I am also learning a lot about waiting on Him, walking with Him, and thanking Him for all his blessings. Now prayers are for my DH's healing, both from the femur surgery and from the cancer.
How old is your son and DIL? How did your son hear about DH? I forgot who let him know.
Prayers for your DH's healing.
While waiting for DH to go in for surgery to remove his cancerous kidney, I texted ES, not even sure if he still had the same number, and said that his dad was having this surgery and wish he could be there with us but maybe he could keep him in his thoughts and prayers. He texted back and asked if he could call me. I said yes. He called and asked if he could come and sit with me and my sister and other son and I said yes. That was the opening door.
I am praising the Lord with you this morning!! I think you showed much wisdom in how you responded, and I will keep this in my mind for that day when the Lord brings back my ES to me too! So happy for you, wish I could hug you in person and share some tears of joy with you, as I imagine you are shedding some still!! HUGS!
Now we move forward. Thanks all of you for your prayers and always being there for me. I pray for all of us here dealing with the challenges of estranged adult children.
You have always been a blessing. Please continue to keep us posted on your reconciliation. It encourages us as to what God is able to do. Please, also, keep us posted on your DH's progress.
God bless you all.