CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
Out of the blue my daughter called today..... I didn't even recognize the phone number. I was shocked to hear her voice on the end of the phone but left speechless with the question she asked:
"Mom, there is a dog running loose. It is a Golden Retriever. It looks like he has tags but he won't come to me and I am afraid he will get hit. What should I do?"
I was left speechless as I am thinking - - you are calling me about a loose dog? - - you are worried the dog might get hit? - - what about _________. I just answered "don't go near the traffic or you might get hit. If he won't come to you call Animal Control"
I asked how she was doing. She said fine but she lost the part time job that she had. She hung up a minute later getting ready to call Animal Control and I am still flabergasted.
What is she possibly thinking? The only time she has contacted me via email has been to ask for help with something. She hasn't called me since July 2011. I am sitting here stunned.
"Mom, there is a dog running loose. It is a Golden Retriever. It looks like he has tags but he won't come to me and I am afraid he will get hit. What should I do?"
I was left speechless as I am thinking - - you are calling me about a loose dog? - - you are worried the dog might get hit? - - what about _________. I just answered "don't go near the traffic or you might get hit. If he won't come to you call Animal Control"
I asked how she was doing. She said fine but she lost the part time job that she had. She hung up a minute later getting ready to call Animal Control and I am still flabergasted.
What is she possibly thinking? The only time she has contacted me via email has been to ask for help with something. She hasn't called me since July 2011. I am sitting here stunned.
Truly, the "fabricated" stories, well I understand that completely. My three sisters, who want nothing to do with me, have decided to take my son and his wife under their wings...to protect them from his "crazy, religious" Mom....me! My sisters are probably enjoying my grandson..although I am just guessing at that, because I am left in the dark, haven't a clue as to what is going on with my ES and his life, however I know how hurtful my sisters are, and have always been.
If God ever gets hold of my sisters, I pray that they come and tell me. This spiritual battle in my family of origin (siblings, parents) has been raging a long time. Over the years, they have made me look like some kind of "crazy", just because I am open about my faith and I will not compromise what I know God says in the Bible as His Truths. I come from a non-Christian background, never knew about Jesus and His Love for me..until I became a wayward teenager and was desperate to get relief from the torments of living my life without any purpose. When God intervened, and at the age of 18, .then a wonderful group of Christians invited me to their youth event. The rest is history for me...Jesus was made known to me at that event., and I was changed forever by God's amazing love and grace.
What confuses me, is why would people who were taught about Jesus and His love from an early age and "trained in the way they should go" can be so blind to His presence in their lives and in the world??
You can be sure that after finding a Christian man (God's gift) and starting a new beautiful family (three children, now all adults) that after any of them being shown God's ways and His love, would ever want to step over to the "dark" side...without God in their lives at all??? But, it happened, because my ES has done this. Mysteries of life that only God Himself understands, and I simply must trust Him now.
We ache inside for our "lost" children..young adult, old adult, doesn't matter..they are lost in their stubborn chase for this world's ways..corrupt and ungodly ways. God is able to reach them, just like He reached me as a young adult. My heart has been breaking for my sisters who have been hostile to my faith in God..but they are not beyond Jesus' love either. All I do now, is rest in the assurance that God knows how to handle these people who He loves, He loves them much more than I do. I have learned to turn a "deaf" ear to all of the lies out there (still learning this difficult lesson), and ask God to keep me from falling into despair...and it's enough for me to actually keep myself from occasionally getting off the "straight" and narrow. Ephesians 5 vs. 15: "Be careful, then, how you live - not as unwise but as wise,
vs.16..making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil."
Right now, I am asking God to just help me to concentrate on my own walk with Him...it's not my job, but His, to worry about others lives, like my ES and my sisters. Not easy to leave them in His hands, but necessary.
Hope my story helps you dear DS4me...stay strong in your faith. When you love your daughter so much, it is so difficult to leave her completely in God's hands, I know, most parents here understand this pain very well. (((hugs)))