CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
4 hours sleep, things are finished....after a week of her dropping the kids off everynight and not saying anything to us, texting to pick her daughter up at school because she wasn't going to be there in time to pick her up, my husband said this is enough bullying. Well with that came taking of the kids away forever. She turns everything around and makes us the bad guys. I'm so sad so frustrated and know that I cannot stay in this because life has to go on even though I don't want it to.
She has taken us for over 4000 dollars, last year she called to say she thought her husband might be molesting her daughter, she called her best friend. We both sought a professional to see what they thought and they felt that yes something may be going on. She then threw us under the bus, her husband passed a lie detector test and said we started all this!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the heck. She came back last mothers day. Her car broke down 2 weeks ago we lent her a car and had hers fixed at our reputable mechanic. 400 dollar repair (on top of the 4000 she has no intention of paying back) She gets mad at us saying she is being ripped off. I phone 3 random garages and they are all same amount as she was being charged except our mechanic was giving her a 3 yr warranty and the others only 1. So she said she has no intention of paying us, I had told her to give me 50 dollars a week for 8 weeks. She gave me 50 probably because she needed me to watch the kids. My grandkids were getting so excited learning about God, and asked why mommy never listens to music about Him. I told them everybody makes choices as what to listen to. She used to sing Jesus Loves me to them when they were babies. I seriously think she is either mentally unfit or narcissist. My heart is broken once again. I know God is here, but I wish He would take me home, no pain in heaven.
She has taken us for over 4000 dollars, last year she called to say she thought her husband might be molesting her daughter, she called her best friend. We both sought a professional to see what they thought and they felt that yes something may be going on. She then threw us under the bus, her husband passed a lie detector test and said we started all this!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the heck. She came back last mothers day. Her car broke down 2 weeks ago we lent her a car and had hers fixed at our reputable mechanic. 400 dollar repair (on top of the 4000 she has no intention of paying back) She gets mad at us saying she is being ripped off. I phone 3 random garages and they are all same amount as she was being charged except our mechanic was giving her a 3 yr warranty and the others only 1. So she said she has no intention of paying us, I had told her to give me 50 dollars a week for 8 weeks. She gave me 50 probably because she needed me to watch the kids. My grandkids were getting so excited learning about God, and asked why mommy never listens to music about Him. I told them everybody makes choices as what to listen to. She used to sing Jesus Loves me to them when they were babies. I seriously think she is either mentally unfit or narcissist. My heart is broken once again. I know God is here, but I wish He would take me home, no pain in heaven.
Just read your post, didn't try to get into all the comments, but your daughter sounds like an ungrateful brat right now. Sounds like you have gone out of your way to help. I tried and tried to please my ES, but nothing did any good, and I finally detached. I could not please him with anything. When I did stand up to him, that is when I got cut off. This is so extremely painful for us as mothers, that I understand where you are coming from. What is wrong with these young people today? I think it is sort of a general sickness in society now.
JB
Right now you are hurting and in one of the valleys of life so to speak. We have all been there. Do what is best for you right now to work through all your emotions. You are at the end of your rope! You need some time out!! You need some healing time.
Living with a family estrangement is extremely painful and can even be debilitating. Healing is possible. Healing starts from within. The most important reconciliation is the one you make with yourself. That way, your family's willingness or unwillingness to participate in a healing process will not be able to take away your peace of mind. When you feel good about yourself and the ways in which you relate to others and are at peace with your spiritual side, you'll be okay whether or not your family speaks to you.