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invisibilityc
invisibilityc
This is my first time to blog. I have had a very tainted past and divorced my husband 6 years ago. Now I am paying the price. My prison is my daughter's rejection of me. She wants nothing to do with me, even though I have taken the blame for all the pain she is feeling. I have apologized and taken her outpouring of pain many times. She has tried to turn my mother and sister away from me by telling lies and making up scenarios of childhood abuse that never happened.
I realize we pay for our sins and the consequences are severe, but is there ever a chance for resurrection? I know any action I take at this point will actually fall on deaf ears, or worse, be met with fury. I am at a loss as to how to pray, how to stay out of the deep depression I face daily and how to fight the self- hate I feel for letting this happen.
I would appreciate prayers and suggestions.
invisibilityc
invisibilityc
Thank you all so much for your encouragement! It is so comforting to know that I am not alone!
Norske1
Norske1
invisibilityc - you are NEVER alone - you have us and you have God.
bella479
bella479
Invisibility......that sends fury through me when I hear of AC calling their parents names. She would want to not hear what I would say to her...she sounds like a spoiled brat. Why would you want to be around anyone like that? She is going to tear you down deeper....stay away ! You need to remember if you would not allow others to call you names why her? My goodness you are fueling the fire with her.

There is no way I would have anything to do with someone like that.....she needs medical help. You my dear need to focus on yourself and stay close to God He is our protection and strength. I would be praying for God to shake her up some so she sees a need for Him in her life. The past is over and she needs to get over it.
justwanttobeme49
justwanttobeme49
10 years ago I had the same situation happen between my daughter and I. I divorced by ex husband 10 years ago. I got sick the same year with Lupus. My daughter would not talk to me four or five years after that. I prayed and prayed. I cried many of days. I did not lose hope. I knew that with prayer and faith things will work out. Give her some time. She will come around. Leave it in God's hand. My ex passed away 2011 which leaves only me in her life. We are close now. I will be moving into her house in of October. Keep the faith and don't give up. Change is coming!!
lindajoan
lindajoan
Praise God for His answer to prayer in your life, justwant.
ruthsandraschilling
ruthsandraschilling
Just saying it's my youngest son who is not in touch with me but a few years ago my eldest son wasn't in touch for four years. I was heart broken. Some people prayied into the situation and after three weeks we were back in touch with each other. When this happened again with the youngest son it did bring the pain back.
invisibilityc
invisibilityc
justwant… Thank you. I have had many times in my life where the question of "Is God real?" pass through my mind. Then He preforms a miracle in my life and I can not imagine how people who are not believers get through tough times. As frustrating as it is, and as personal as I take this situation, I realize HE is in control. I have to trust….. be patient….keep my eyes on Him, and if it is His will, the relationship will be resurrected. But for Me, God led me to this site where I have encouragement. He is taking care of me in my pain through this place.