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Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...

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Ishallwearpurple 06/05/2013

An extract from a book I am reading:

Have hope that things will change. Sometimes our children cut the cord in painful ways, but when they feel more like their own persons, they will return to a kinder, healthier, less dependent relationship. In fact, I know of many cases where children who have refused to see or be decent to mothers have later worked through their feelings and come around. In fact the founder of the first MESCH chapter has observed this in the few years the group has been operating. One by one, there has been a healing. so take heart and take time.

....from "Be an Outrageous Older Woman" by Ruth Harriet Jacobs.

For printing and pasting on our refrigerators!! Smiles & Hugs

deleted_user 06/05/2013

Hi purple!

HOPE? Yep, I live by hope for our ES & ED-inlaw although I will admit that as time increases and nears the decade mark, it does dwindle as each year goes by. With the biggest problem being the DIL and her insecurity issues and her narcissistic personality, it truly will have to come by the hand of God working in her heart before our ES will take as stand against her wishes. But, I never give up on God's handiwork! I have seen lives changed in dramatic ways and I know that if it is in His plan, it will happen.

God Bless,
M2G

Norske1 06/05/2013

Mom2Guel - you have just wrote what I am feeling. Our situations are so similar. Until my ES finds strength to be himself, my DIL will never let him reconnect with his family. Her NPD causes her to hate so much. It has been 6 years for us.

But we do have hope and we do have prayer. Where would we be without hope and prayer?

Hope4Roses 06/05/2013

I don't know...I don't think I hope much anymore. It's only been two years; my situation is much like yours with SIL with personality disorder who has caused so much ill will.

How do you manufacture hope when there doesn't seem to be much? Is it possible? I know God can work wonders, and He often does...in a way, I have just had to give it over to Him and move on with my life without them. :-( :-(

deleted_user 06/05/2013

In my situation, it's only worsened over time, but I continue to believe God will make a way and there's hope if it's God's divine will. I certainly don't want to be sucked into false hope, but will take each day and live it one day at a time praying ED will eventually recognize what she is doing to try to ruin and destroy not only my life, but drastically affecting the lives of my three innocent and precious granddaughters who are being cheated as well. I honestly don't know how our ECs can live with themselves every waking moment. I pray for deep deep penetrating conviction in their hearts from our Savior and that their lives are so miserable they cannot deal with it anymore and will move toward permanent reconciliation with all of us. Enough is enough. As if we don't have enough problems going on in our world, the breakdown of relationships affect us the most. I know God is able to perform miracles and I trust Him with our futures.

movingonwithfaith 06/05/2013

I pray for us all! God is so good!

Ishallwearpurple 06/06/2013

Reading over these messages and examining my own heart - makes me realize that you can mend a broken toy only so many times.... These ECs are hurting their loved ones beyond repair in some cases. Some have returned to the fold only to push off again at the first slight - knowing how much they are empowered by hurting us - and return again and again.

Even God said "My Spirit will not ALWAYS strive with man"

How much pain can one mother bear? How much rejection? How much is too much?

dbroberts 06/06/2013

Thanks so much Purple!

Hope4Roses 06/06/2013

Purple, that's why I had to put away all the photos and push all thoughts of my ED and my 5 precious grandbabies out of my mind. I couldn't take any more of the pain.

Which is why I am dreading seeing her again...I am afraid I will have to start the process all over again. :-(

deleted_user 06/06/2013

i think i have had enough pain and rejection ishallwearp... a person can only take so much!

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