I feel for you. My son's girlfriend has taken out a cease and desist against me contacting them ever again. I can't begin to tell you how hurt I am that my son would allow this. Have helped him out so many times ..now this. Some women just want you out of the way. Read it is usually in five stages they slowly turn your son away from you. The texts on my molible I have had from her are disgusting. She ended with goodbye dear. Nightmare carry on. This was the result of me taking birthday presents to the house for my Grandchildren.

I feel for anyone in the same situation

Soverysad, I am sad with you today. None of this is the way God would ever want it. The enemy and evil free will are the causes.

May God give you His peace and comfort today. Please be good to yourself. I hope you and DH can spend a nice evening together. God bless you both.

Maybe his girlfriend will eventually slowly disappear from is life. These girls are so insecure and worried about the guy's mother.....what is up with that ? This seems to be so prevalent these days. Can you tell me where you read about the '5 stages' ..... I would like to read that. Our DIL has been on the hunt against us from day one. She totally has mental issues unbelievably and has planned so many mean things against and between people and then stood back innocently watching all the chaos happen.

One day before our son married her we ran into this little older lady that I always talked to at church. She was a quiet but wise person who had been a Christian for years. We were talking about our son and him getting married to this girl. She said, "Well I went to (this Christian college in MN) with her grandma and she was one person you never wanted to be seen with". Oh wow---that really opened our eyes and from then on many people filled us in on her family. Our son was so gullible and now is an unhappy person with 3 kids......we warned him but he wouldn't listen.

Hi bella, I read in on line ...think it was daughter in laws from hell or something like that. I typed in different things in Google. I was surprised to read how they start calling you to the son ...then your Son hardly visits.etc. Five stages in all..till the relationship breaks down. I have done nothing wrong..only spoken the truth. They were fighting and are not at all suited but he has a child with her. Two girls from his marriage , wife went off with a woman . He was very damaged ... Also by my divorce and influenced by my ex who does not wish me well. It has been so upsetting. I felt I was cracking up. Mark my son said to me I wish you were dead. Dreadful carry on. I have no one to turn to either.

Ruth, we care about you.

I understand the hurt your feeling and so sorry for that, it seems so many of us try to reach out to our ec and come back with empty hands, and heart broke more. I remember calling one ES on christmas morning and he wouldnt answer the phone and never called me back. So broken hearted,and i wish the hurt on anyone.

When you think what is going on in the world and your own flesh and blood do not show concern or love in anyway. It says in Revelation that the young would be loves of themselves, rude to parents. Etc. I am sure many of you were respectful to your family elders. I could not live with myself if I thought I had hurt anyone. My son has left me in no doubt how much he hates me. Tells me I have been a bad Mother and an even worse Grandmother. I did my best for both my sons, over and above even after they left home. Brought them up on my own. Struggled, sacrificed to give them both a good education. My ex did nothing to help then in anyway ... He is shown more regard than me. I wasn't even invited to his first wedding. The girlfriend has manipulated him, now engaged. She said we don't want you in our lives. When my son grows up i will tell him what a vile person you are. What gets me is the injustice of it all.

Oh my goodness, this is my story exactly. I would like to read about those 5 stages, too. Our son was so close with the family, and when he at first told us he had found someone, we were over the moon and happy for him. At that time our oldest son had married a wonderful girl, and we were all one big happy family, and I thought "the more, the merrier". I couldn't wait to meet her. But alas, she had other plans. I had no idea women like this existed, except on tv shows like Dr. Phil or even Jerry Springer. Or maybe in those Lifetime tv movies. And even so, I never dreamed it could happen to US. Anyway, it was very insidious the way she did it, but she slowly pulled him away bit by bit, and now there is nothing, just total estrangement. I mean he did drop by for one hour in May, but that was it, and he was so odd, and acted like nothing ever happened, and then disappeared and I haven't heard a word since. And he has a new baby, born in January, that I have never seen and I have begged for a photo of him at least, and he will not.

verysad, I'm sorry you didn't hear from your son today. My daughter's birthday is next week. I don't expect to hear from her either.

This makes me so sad to hear how these adult children are,and how all our stories,lives are so much alike, i pray for all of us

There does seem to be a very similar thread going through all these stories for sure.

Ruth-----I am so very sorry for you and the circumstances you are in. There are several estrangement groups on DS that may give you comfort too, you may want to look into them. You know down deep you did the best and what you knew how to do in raising your EC. Do not allow satan to condemn you and try to drag you down. We all can only do what we know best with our children and then remember it is 'their choice' how they choose to behave (I have to remind myself of this also). It sure does not take the pain away from our hearts but it gives us comfort and peace in knowing God knows the truth. Take care of yourself. I and some others on here have learned to let go of them and make a life of our own. (hugs)

Soverysad, How are you today? I know yesterday was a difficult day.

Hell Bella thank you for your kind reply...I am doing my best to rise above it all. I am quite a strong person. Not hard just have a cultivated strength through hardship. My life has not been easy I have been divorced 34 years , having been married to a compulsive gambler, who had an affair and was abusive. So for my son to reject me is just too much, I will get back on an even keel. It's not the way you want things to turn out but I can't deal with anymore hurt.

I can relate to the hurt all of you are going through, i wake up hurting, i go to bed hurting,everytime i see or hear anything to do with families i cry. i use to enjoy my gd, but i believe she takes after her dad, he threatened at one time to keep her from me when she was small, ever since i have had a wall up,now he has another child but i wont let myself get close,and he is very distant now use to be total estranged but no contact latley,we walk on eggshells 100% with him. My other distant son has my other gs and my heart is shattered withhim this son and dil have used me and dh andnow we are at a time where we very seldom see or talk, but not seeing gc is to much hurt