CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
I ran into a friend that ED suddenly stopped being friends with before she left with her bf. The friend said she had peeked at her FB page and saw she was engaged. I didn't know if she was telling the truth since I thought ED had everyone blocked on FB. Yesterday I had an idea to check the internet as marriage licenses are public knowledge. My husband checked and I called the county to verify. My ED was married July 19th! I'm at work and it's hard to focus. I can't believe they're married. I was praying so hard they'd break up. I'm going to have my husband order a copy of the license. It'll say who married them and who the 2 witnesses were. I'm also praying about if I should send a card, so they know I know. We also got something from the insurance that she went to the women's clinic July 30th. She used her maiden name to use the insurance. The bill was going to come to us, but we sent a letter saying we'd only pay the bill if we could know if she's ok. No response. Now I'm worried she's pg. She's scamming the insurance as she's no longer covered if married. I'm not going to say anything to the insurance Maybe she just did it 1ce until she can get on her husband's insurance if he has any and can add her. It's SO HURTFUL to have to find out information this way. My ED has morphed into someone I don't know anymore. We used to be so close.
I am very aware of what your pain feels like. I also woke up one day and read on FB that my son got married. I was devastated. My head swirled and I thought that I was going to be sick to my stomach. I kept thinking that it had to be a joke. It was on his girlfriend's page. I have never met her but she had friended me when they first started dating.
Then on the next day, there was a picture of him with a big fish and the caption said, " Look what my husband caught". So I thought....it must be true.
Everyone was congratulating them and my world just crumbled beneath me.
Then later on I heard thru the grapevine that it was a joke from his gf. I didn't think it was funny. I am glad that they are not married. But I sure did experience the pain of it all before I found out.
I hope that you are feeling a bit better by now. Our ECs can be so cruel. Can't they?
We sent ED and her husband a card and money. I put both their names on the check to have husband see that we accept him and her as married. I really didn't expect the check to be cashed. My ED sent an apology letter for taking off, but nothing about the marriage. The letters were sent about the same time, so I don't know if she sent it before or after sending the card. She also said in the letter though that she didn't like me saying I would only pay her dr. bill if I got to see her; that she didn't want my money. Out of curiosity we went to the bank and only her husband signed the back of the check. I thought both had to sign it if both names are on it. Now I'm wondering if ED saw the card and knows husband cashed the check. She had no return address on the letter, so sent another letter forwarded certified mail. She never went to claim it, so it came back. It has her current address on it. Before we got it back my dad found out where she works and went to see her. He had a nice visit with her, but I wonder if it was just a front for her co-workers. She promised him she'd call us, but never did. We waited about 2 weeks. My husband then called her work and asked to talk to her. She was busy and never called back. He just sent a letter asking her if it was ok for him to get a haircut.