by the way im a girl xD lol thats jus a pic. of my bf :P

I think that any major change in a persons life can make their emotions go into overdrive and a divorce is no different. Whenever something big is beginning or ending it really makes you look at all the aspects of your life more critically and also causes us to be more sensitive to other changes or feelings you're experiencing. Even if you could see the divorce coming or it was a fairly pleasant separation you are bound to have a reaction in one way or another. Just know that what you're going through is normal and should ease with time.

its weird thow cause these emotions have nothing to do with the divorce. im perfectly find with the divorce. actually im glad its happening but cause of other stuff im going through at the moment i think its bringing those all up at once

Tell them how you feel, what is going on in your mine..If you can't tell them then write them a letter. Do they get along since the divorce? Do they talk about each other in an uncivilized manner? If so tell them point blank I know how you feel about each other, so why do u have to keep telling me? Can't you just love me and enjoy the time we have together. One day I'll be grown and gone and I want to share this time with you making happy memories not telling me how bad you hate mom/dad.

ive tried telling my father how i felt about it his fucking drinking problem [srry for the language] but he wont fucking listen. when hes sober OR drunk. and no my parents dont speak at all. which i dont blame my mother for. he brought so much domestic violence into this house it was unreal. its not right for us who were so young to experience shit like this. when my sister and i were much smaller, she saw something a 7 year old should never of seen. she saw my father choking my mother right in the hallway. i was luckier and only heard the yelling but i freak out much easier than my sister does when he comes home drunk. or i say i did. he's kicked outta the house and my mom slapped a restraining order on his ass oh guess what. he was cheating on my mom with some fucking bimbo at work. and another thing......this wasn't the first time either. they went to court about a week-maybe 2, to talk about the restrainign order and he came to court fucking drunk. yeh, thats a gd way that u show that u really mean fucking business. he's already lost his wife and now hes just about lost his kids. because of him hes only allowed to see us, twice i think, a month now. my mom wanted to give us the voice of letting us decide whenever we want to see him but after that shit, the judge declined. and the worst thing i hate about that whole court bullshit was that he had the fucking odacity to call MY MOTHER AN UNFIT PARENT. yeh. shes the one with the drinking problem, who cant fucking hold onto his money, who cant pay the fucking bills and his debt on time. my mother works fucking hard for us hes got the balls to say that bout her. well fuck him. i have lost all fucking respect for his fucking ass.

I was also all numbed out after my parents divorced. But then i couldn't care less....like you said, with domestic violence it's GOOD to get a divorce.....everything is so much better now. Be happy your parents don't talk...mine do all the time b/c my ilttle brother has to visit my dad and my dad always gives him shit, he comes crying to my mom and they end up arguing about it. But at least he's not living with us...also an alcoholic...and he's remarried and his wife gives us shit too. UGH well now i know what to NOT look for in a man.....haha.

yeh. the funny thing is, even thow my sister is 13 now and im 15 now, he still treats us like lil children. like we dont know wtf is goin on u know? im just glad that this is all over and done with and my mom can be happy again. shes the one im worried about not us. hes never done anything to us at all when hes drunk. he acts all nice to us, then turns on my mother. it just took her longer that what it shouldve tooken to finally stop all the B.S. but better late than never. the weird thing is thow...........despite the shit hes done, i still love guys xD lolol i dont really look for anything in a guy. i think that if u have a connection then u have a connection. the surcumstances shouldnt matter. well unless hes got like an addiction to coke or somethin lol :P

Hahaha.Orrr he's an alcohollic? lol thats what i was getting at. And yea i totally worry about my mom too. But we've become really good friends, despite how we used to like, battle each other when i was 15/16...and my dad's just rly dumb. Like reaalllyy just not smart. hahaha. Its fun we make fun of him (although that's not nice..). He accepts it. haha. My dad tries to make my little brother and i love him by buying us things (which i don't complain about, hehe.) but idk if i can forgive him for the way he's made my mom feel. oh well. i'm sure i will one day... :)

lol yeh. or hes an alcoholic. yeh. me and my mom were always close. i tell her alott of the stuff that goes on in my life, thow not really the more, intimate details

stupid thing didnt do my whole comment >=| but yeh. hes really not dumb. hes actually quite smart but his stupid fucking addiction doesnt make it better. yeh...my dad never buys us anything really. my mom is the one who is financially fit. she always pays the bills on time and such. he's up to his chin in debt. and then he threatened to take me and my sister from my mother and i told her that theres no fucking way. shes financially capable of taking care of us and her record is spotless. him...........i would loose like fucking 50 pounds. we kicked him out one time for about a year, he lived with my grandpa [his dad] he got like way fucking skinny. so he can barely even take care of himself u know. but yeh......i bet he treats his bimbos kids better than he treats us _ but whatever man