I went and visited my mom for father's day and it was the day before her birthday. I havent seen my father in almost 20 years and he only calls maybe once every 5 years to try to ease his conscious and blame everyone but him for why we dont have a relationship.

I was paranoid that my half brother would call me and try to get me to call our dad because he has a good relationship with him. I think that since he didnt he realizes that it bugs me when he tries to mend us.

It was an awesome day though sat and watched ANTM all day long LOL until my husband came home.

that''s so cool.... glad you kept your mom company! and glad it was fun! that's one way to do it.... lol

i totally understand what you mean about your half brother....
my older bro was "friends" with dad for some years. that's because one day years ago when i was in 2nd grade, dad came over to the US and took my bro away from us. he wouldn't bring him back so we left to go over seas to get him. anyways... for the couple years he was "missing" dad had been brainwashing him all that time.

as a result for years later he was always "friends" with him.... till one day recently he realized how much dad is a smuck. i was relieved to hear it cuz it had been uh.... hmm.. let's see, he took him away fro us back in 89 i think. so it took THAT long for him to get his mind straight, and it's 2009 now....wow.

but anyways... he used to pull that tactic on us... like he would talk about how he got an email from dad and so on and that we should tak to him yada yada.... whatever. he LEFT us back in 89 and that's all there was to it. not to mention the fact that he took my older bro away from us! how can i forgive??

anyways.... it's old news now and i'm glad my bro is out of that mind set. i hope that your half bro can be "friends" with you and realize that you are cool. and best of all, that you don't need that "father" dude in your life.

Dang that is crazy girl! I think a big part of fathers and sons is that boys are so desperate for a fathers love and attention that they are willing to be blind to a lot of the crapola that they dish out. I have to be careful with my brother because he will make comments sometimes about how dad does love us or how dad sent him and/or his wife money and I can feel the blood pressure rising. His dad doesnt call me unless he is drunk and his dad has NEVER sent a dime to me for anything...man doesnt even know when his oldest grandchildren were born I am sure LOL.

GOD I hate how my dad can get me all worked up so many years after I gave up on him.

But I took care of my mommapappa for fathers day and she was very very happy.

yep, i agree! my dad would send my bro money, back in the day too, and buy him all kinds of things... but as far as the rest of us.... dad hardly knew we existed.

it's sad that your dad don't know anything about his grand kids...
i mean grand parents are supposed to play a strong role in sharing "wisdom", yu know... well at least in plenty other cultures, it is the elders duty to pass on wisdom and guidance to the younger generations.

but i guess that don't really exist here in the the US... and many other cultures seem to abandoning it as well. ...sad.

i wish man kind could correct it's path... then maybe there wouldn't be so many hurting souls on this planet.