enraged is a perfect word to describe it.
i was an only child when my dad cheated, i mean he cheated again when my little brother was born but what does an infant know?
just seeing him hold my little brother and pretend to care about our family while doing all those disgusting things on the side made me hate him forever. i've never forgiven him and i never will.

did you ever tell your mom that it angered you? or where you silent about you're feelings too?

i was silent for many years. but it finally came out in 2000 when i MADE her sign the divorce papers! i told her i was SICK and TIRED of hearing how she missed him and he was a fuckin pig. i was disgusted that he was my father and even more disgusted that she kept taking him back all those years. i finally felt like i could put it behind me when she signed the papers and mailed it to him.

but still years later, every now and then i hear her talk about dad and how she wishes things were different and bla bla bla....
i always tell her to stick a cork in it and find a new man that CARES about her! she's 61 now and i still want her to remarry one day to a great caring man, just so she can experience what a good man is like. lol

that's great. I hope your mother does find that one true person who will honestly love her. :]

i hope that for my mother too, besides, then there will be someone else to have to put up with her sh*t besides me, haha.

LOL! same here

All I have are accusations and sketchy things my mom did. Before she moved out, she was hanging out with a particular male co-worker of hers. She wouldnt answer her cell phone when we would call her. She would be out and we would have no idea where she was.

My mom claims she didn't do anything wrong while she was with my dad.

If I one day find out my mom did cheat, I will be devastated. This is the person that raised me to become the good moral person I am. And to think she was capable of doing something like that? I think it would make me hate her.

Pissed off is a good way to describe it. Now I'm just apathetic to it. But my mom finally wised up after the second time around.

oh wow. gd Q. where to i begin lol yeh. my mom was cheated on numerous times. she never actually caught him in the act but she told me one time tht she found a shirt in here car tht didnt belong to me, my sister or my mother. so i think she knew for awhile but just didnt realy wanna beleive it. and i know he wasnt always like this. idk why he is now. after his accident its like our whole family life just started to go down hill from there.

his alcoholism was the worst thing ever. he abused my mother every time he got hammered. and he wasnt a bad guy. he really wasnt but alcohol just wasnt his friend. and then suddenly he just started to not come home at all. he would come home to sleep on the couch and take a shower occasionally and get clothes but thts it. he never said hi to me or my sister. but yeh. its a huge story tht is behind wat is to be my mother and fathers divorce.

but no. i never hid my feelings from my mother or father. i always bitched at my father and told him how disgusted i was and angered with wat he was doing.

my mum was the one who cheated on my dad. furious and disgusted are two words that come to mind.

i have two little sisters and one is only two years younger than i am, so we can talk about it (she only left my dad for this man 3 years ago). but my other little sister is only 12, so we leave her out of those discussions, and i don't even know if she knows why my parents split.
my dad has been very good about never letting that slip in front of her.

my mum has tried to put us first (the majority of the time) and she is a good mum, but it is still infuriating to know that she did this and to pretend daily that this is okay. i do though, for my sisters mostly.

i have only once confronted my mum about it. i told her that i was angry and disappointed and that i knew what she did, and that she wasn't fooling anyone. after that she seemed to show gratitude almost that i would put up with her and smile while doing it! it was like she had a whole new respect for me or something.

do you think that that is the right thing to do? to pretend that everything is okay even if it isn't for my sisters' sake?

I think for the one who is cheating, yes they are doing something very bad at the time, but remember that parents are imperfect and have more anxiety issues than a child can ever think of, remember the reason a parent is cheating has nothing to do with you and for the one who cannot leave when getting cheated on, it might be hard for them, they have to think about expenses because it costs alot to be by yourself and do everything alone, its really hard, people expect so much out of you that you cannot deliver, you have to work, but if your child gets sick you have to get them out of school, but you get fired if you take off, besides that when someone gets cheated on, they start to feel like nothing and a loser and their self esteem goes down, its like they start believing they deserve it and til they get help for this, they cannot leave, turn your rage to encouraging the other parent, its always more sides to a story than you know, we as parents always over protect our children and try to keep them from knowing all the bad details.

My parents divorced when I was 4, I think. My mind is still in a whirl trying to process this. My dad just recently sat me down and told me everything about the divorce. His goal was to let me see how one overcomes adversity. I'm more than a little overwhelmed. After I found out my mom cheated on my dad...he went back twice trying to make it work, only to find that she just couldn't stop flirting around...when I found out, it's like every memory of my life took on a different meaning. I keep finding layers of irony that feel like slaps in the face. My mom was cheated on later. She went back to the guy and they're happily married to this day. My dad only remarried once. I had a lot of beef with my step-mom for years. I swore my Dad needed my mom and I couldn't understand why he stayed with her. Now I know...she loves him and she's faithful to him. Just before my mom married my dad and cheated, he had a previous fiance that cheated as well. He almost literally killed himself (from exhaustion) working to support us. My earliest memory was from being with my dad the day he caught her going out on him the last time. When I heard the story I recognized tendencies from mom and dad in me. Some of the things I have in common with my mom just infuriate me and scare me. Mom's been married 5 times. That's been fun. Right now I don't know what to do with it all. I feel like I'm lost and nothing makes sense. One minute I'm angry and upset, the next I try to be calm remembering that in the end she's still mom and that never changes. She's human...

My mum was the one who cheated on my dad. my picked up the courage last to call quits he had know for 5 years what she was doing but did not want to hurt us kids. i praise him for that

yes. both my parents cheated. they've lied about it and completelt betrayed our family. i feel your pain and am happy to talk if you ever want to. i've also started blogging about my experiences here: http://lifeasavroom.blogspot.com/

My mom cheated on my dad. My mom and dad told my older brother who is 24 to see how he would handle it and he flipped out. So they didn't tell me or my younger brother, but I found out anyway and my mom or dad doesn't know and it does hurt.

I don't know you or your family but I know a lot of reasons why people take the other person back is because they rely on them financially. So they feel like they are stuck with them.