Children Of Divorced Parents Support Group
This community is for the children of divorce, both for adult children who have lived through a divorce as well as parents concerned about the effects of divorce on their children. Share your story and get advice in this support group, where there are others going through similar challenges.
My mom and my step-dad have been together for 10 years, and are now splitting up. I had to move away from my step-dad, as well as my home town, all of my friends, and my pets, and i was forced to make this decision, where this was my only option, in a few days, not even a week and a half. Now being where I am, living with reletives and my mother across the country from my home, living off of the savings I had for college, my $100 of child support a week, and what used to be my mom's secret savings account, my mother grabbed and left a bad bruise on me in a fit of rage. I was abused as a child, but NEVER by my mom, and the person I saw wasn't her, it was a monster, and I no longer feel safe around her. I want to go home, but now I' being told by my family and also by my other to just "Fake being happy, and eventually you will be!" They want me to just sacrfice everything for my mom, when now is a crucial pint in my life if i want to have a good career and a good life going forward. I am being told to put aside all of my feelings, my personality, how I act and carry myself, and all of self-respect and give only respect to my mother who dissmisses anything I have to say, and holds no respect for me any longer. I graduated a year early from highschool, and now at 16, I should be in college studying for my dream job, but instead I'm being forced to stay in a place where I am unhappy, and feel utterly unsafe all because my mom wasn't happy with man I grew up knowing as the only father who ever cared about me. I have been guilted into what is happening and I can't think of a way out because unless my mother fuly releases me as an emancipated adult, I can't leave, as that would leave all rights to my drug-addicted biological father. I have no way of escaping this, and I truly just need help, or some sort of advice, this is my last resort.
Unfortunately you're in a position in which you have to grow up quicker than most people, so grab life by the horns, so to speak, and create the kind of life that you want to have. Get out of your house as much as possible and try to keep yourself from being dragged down by the people who want you to disown your feelings, your personality, and your sense of self. Start journaling (if you don't already) and write about the kind of life that you want to create, the kind of person you want to become. Create goals for yourself, and small steps to attain them. It would be nice if you were surrounded by supportive people, but you aren't, so you can't rely on these other people to dictate your life. Start reaching out and making some positive friends. Before you know it, you will be old enough to move out. Don't give up your college dream-- education is the path to financial stability, which then creates all kinds of other options.