Children Of Divorced Parents Support Group
This community is for the children of divorce, both for adult children who have lived through a divorce as well as parents concerned about the effects of divorce on their children. Share your story and get advice in this support group, where there are others going through similar challenges.
Hi everyone, I am Charlene. I just joined and I hope that someone can understand my situatation and help me as I really need help. My mother has hurt my 8 year old sister and me until we had to go to the hospital for 2 weeks!!! The court has forced me to have Skype calls twice a week with her. During the calls, she completely ignores me. An example is when I asked her for her email during 3 30min Skype calls and she completely ignored me!!! The court is forcing me to go back and stay overnight with her. She will get 2 other people to pin me down and she would dig her long finger nails into my arm until there is a gash if I do not release my phone. I think she does this so that I cannot ask my father any questions for my homework ( and she does not help me with my homework anyway). Afterwhich, she will lock me in my room and I am not allowed out and food is sent up. I am now breaking down in school every day and i can't stand staying with her.
HELP ME!!!! PLEASE!!!! I CAN'T GO BACK TO HER!!!!
Do you have someone else you know and love that would be willing to let you move in?
I write about turning the pain of a bad childhood into power on my website, you might find some help that resonates there: http://brockblack.com/5-valuable-lessons-your-reckless-parents-taught-you/
Also how old are you? It might be helpful for your to use whatever intense emotions you are filling at this time in your life to fuel your fight to escape and make a better life.
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I had an abusive father when I was a kid. I was working on my escape plan at your age and think now's the time to start. If you start working on your plan now, you will be ready when you are 18. Until then just try to avoid the threats the best you can. Try to keep mom calm, play the game to keep yourself safe. Here are some universal truths that I used and that I think might help you escape.
1. Education - School is the only thing you have control over right now. If you start getting straight A's adults will notice and possibly help, especially financial aid advisers. Pour everything you've got into making yourself stand out. Education is the only escape for people like us. I actually graduated top of my class, two weeks later my Dad who I was living with slit a man's throat with a box cutter.
2. No Drugs - The peer pressure was ridiculous! But your brain is very malleable right now, this is the time in your life when you create habits that will stick with you until you die. Again make yourself stand out from all the people around you. I know young people think drugs help, but not using them will teach you how to be even stronger and deal with the hard realities of life straight on. These skills come in handy later!
3. Get a job, work and save your money. Hide it, open a bank and don't tell your family you have money. Lie if you have to. You'll need 5k at least to get a starter car and pay your portion of any rent when you move in with a friend.
4. Just always try to make the wisest and most responsible choices you can. Develop a hatred for how your parents have chosen to live their life. Absorb everything you see like a sponge, let them teach you what not to do and make your goal to not be the apple that lands close to the tree. Be the apple that rolls down the hill, into the river, and floats away to the ocean!
On the flipside, absorb as much good info as you can from anyone decent in your life. Try to act like the people who live live's that you'd like someday.