Child Support & Custody Support Group
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Because of my husband and his mistress, my children and I lost our home, our cars, our financial stability,our peaceful way of life.
He constantly lies and says he has no money to help clothe and feed our two kids. Finally, I am going to court for help. So, what do they do? They order a child evalution hearing, trying to get first, sole, then changed it to joint custody. Now my stbx contacted me and says that we should settle everything out of court to save money, before the lawyers "bleed us dry".
I wish I didnt have to go to court but he has lied and stabbed me in the back so many times its ridiculous. Also, lied to our children.
Some people have told me that I should NOT settle out of court, because i may come out with the short end of the stick and regret it.
They have already destroyed my children and my life. I wish they'd just leave us alone. My husband already has gotten her pregnant more than once and so they have new babies of their own. Why cant they just leave us the fukk alone already?
Ive been a housewife for many years and they both work long hours. When will they even be able to watch our kids and there kids? This sucks. I guess i kinda didn't want to go to court and hear all the incredible stupid lies about me. Oh, well, what's a housewife to do? Dust myself off, stay strong and keep trudging on, I sopose.
He constantly lies and says he has no money to help clothe and feed our two kids. Finally, I am going to court for help. So, what do they do? They order a child evalution hearing, trying to get first, sole, then changed it to joint custody. Now my stbx contacted me and says that we should settle everything out of court to save money, before the lawyers "bleed us dry".
I wish I didnt have to go to court but he has lied and stabbed me in the back so many times its ridiculous. Also, lied to our children.
Some people have told me that I should NOT settle out of court, because i may come out with the short end of the stick and regret it.
They have already destroyed my children and my life. I wish they'd just leave us alone. My husband already has gotten her pregnant more than once and so they have new babies of their own. Why cant they just leave us the fukk alone already?
Ive been a housewife for many years and they both work long hours. When will they even be able to watch our kids and there kids? This sucks. I guess i kinda didn't want to go to court and hear all the incredible stupid lies about me. Oh, well, what's a housewife to do? Dust myself off, stay strong and keep trudging on, I sopose.
If you are considering settling out of court, make sure that you get everything in writing and that your lawyer approves it. Don't let anybody pressure you into signing anything you don't agree to.
The benefit of settling out of court is that you are more likely to get what you want because in court, some stranger is going to decide what is supposed to be "fair" for your family. I would go to court only if you absolutely can't agree on anything.
Again - be sure that you have an attorney of your own to read over any documents and explain the consequences before you sign anything.
Hugs and good luck!
Yearsoftears, You dont have to apoligize for "rambling" as you put it. Sharing,crying, screaming about it is so much part of the healing process.
What I have heard is that if I settle out of court I cannot go back and change it and there is no court order. But, if I settle IN court, there will be a court order to incourage him not to abandone us financially again, or visiting our kids. They also said that they could, retro cs payments back a few months. Well, we will see. Tgc,ladies
Now, everything has FINALLY started running smoothly so far as the pick up and drop off of the kids are concerned (before it was horrible drama). So, I tell him that i think he is trying to sabatoge everything cuz he can't handle not having control.
Don't give in to that SOB for 1 minute. You are so much stronger than that. Look at what you did for him in the past year. You opened your heart to those other babies for him and he tore it all away from you. He had his chance, and he took what he thought would be an easy way out. You march in that court room with your beautiful smile, knowing you did give your all and then some! You've been to court over that whore already so many times...don't let this one scare you one bit. You are not the coward...he's the coward. Don't let him play these mind games with you. He's still nothing but a bully. Oh yeah, her income can't be used, but when he states these are his bills...the judge should be looking at the fact he now has another partner to cover half of them. So if his rent is $2000, the courts will state he's only responsibe for $1000 since they live together. Don't back down. You deserve your day in court.